weirdness in with friends
The last couple of days have been rather hard for several of my friends. It seems to have all happened about the same time, even though the incidents are unrelated on the whole. Just strange timing I suppose.
The first I found out about on Monday. Woke up to an email from a friend telling me some details of a marriage falling apart. The fault on this one is really on both parts, but the final blow is due to the wife of my friend developing feelings for one of his best friends. They've been meeting up and emailing and things behind my friend's back. Even though the other man is in a relationship too and engaged to be married. It seems that there are probably feelings on both sides. They've all met and and discussed things. Other relationship issues have come out during all this, leading to my friend moving out of the house while they decide what they are going to do. Today he told me that his wife seems to think, and he agrees, that there isn't much to save. They've been married 13 years and have two kids.
The 2nd happened on Tuesday. I don't really know all the details on this, but a good girlfriend of mine has really liked this man for a while now. He was very attentive to her at first, but has been less and less so as time has gone on. Although he calls regularly and chats online with her a lot. But no in person time. Now she has not sitting at home waiting around, and has been out with several other men on the sly. It looks like the relationship is over for some reason. She is very hurt... sad, but kind of expected, you know?
The 3rd I found out about Tuesday as well. A couple I am friendly with who got married almost 2 years ago is having problems. I was speaking to the husband and found out that things are much worse than I thought. Turns out the marriage was sort of a sham to begin with on his part. And while he was trying to make a go of it... its just not working out. They are very different people for the most part. He says that he intends to try and make things work out, but I am not sure how much longer it will last.
Last is one that has been going on for a while. A good friend has been having issues with her boyfriend for a while. He has addiction issues and is emotionally abusive. She is behaving in the typical ways of a person in an abusive relationship. She's been calling another good friend, asking for help to come back home and just really very upset. Boyfriend realizes she is serious about leaving and does the about face and is all love and flowers and making promises... They are going to fly out and drive with her back home this week. Although she is now saying she doesn't want to leave him and he's different and all the usual. They have convinced her to come anyway for a month and see how it works out. I hope she can find a way to be happy.
Its just kind of crazy this is all going on at the same time... I am hoping things get better soon.
The first I found out about on Monday. Woke up to an email from a friend telling me some details of a marriage falling apart. The fault on this one is really on both parts, but the final blow is due to the wife of my friend developing feelings for one of his best friends. They've been meeting up and emailing and things behind my friend's back. Even though the other man is in a relationship too and engaged to be married. It seems that there are probably feelings on both sides. They've all met and and discussed things. Other relationship issues have come out during all this, leading to my friend moving out of the house while they decide what they are going to do. Today he told me that his wife seems to think, and he agrees, that there isn't much to save. They've been married 13 years and have two kids.
The 2nd happened on Tuesday. I don't really know all the details on this, but a good girlfriend of mine has really liked this man for a while now. He was very attentive to her at first, but has been less and less so as time has gone on. Although he calls regularly and chats online with her a lot. But no in person time. Now she has not sitting at home waiting around, and has been out with several other men on the sly. It looks like the relationship is over for some reason. She is very hurt... sad, but kind of expected, you know?
The 3rd I found out about Tuesday as well. A couple I am friendly with who got married almost 2 years ago is having problems. I was speaking to the husband and found out that things are much worse than I thought. Turns out the marriage was sort of a sham to begin with on his part. And while he was trying to make a go of it... its just not working out. They are very different people for the most part. He says that he intends to try and make things work out, but I am not sure how much longer it will last.
Last is one that has been going on for a while. A good friend has been having issues with her boyfriend for a while. He has addiction issues and is emotionally abusive. She is behaving in the typical ways of a person in an abusive relationship. She's been calling another good friend, asking for help to come back home and just really very upset. Boyfriend realizes she is serious about leaving and does the about face and is all love and flowers and making promises... They are going to fly out and drive with her back home this week. Although she is now saying she doesn't want to leave him and he's different and all the usual. They have convinced her to come anyway for a month and see how it works out. I hope she can find a way to be happy.
Its just kind of crazy this is all going on at the same time... I am hoping things get better soon.