When the Mister and I got married fourteen years ago, we assumed we'd have kids. That's what you do, right? You get married, finish school, and then have kids
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I've never wanted children, either. To be perfectly honest, I'd be resentful that they take up my time for other things. That, and I'm bored stupid by childcare. Babysitting? Dear, God, I wanted to chew my own arm off. I used to get roped into babysitting for people, since my family thought it was a good way to convince me that kids weren't all that bad. Nope, it had the opposite effect. One Christmas my mom and grandmother sat me down and talked about how wonderful babies are and how sad they were that I'd never have them. Was one of the last times I've ever seen either one of them. I love my nieces dearly, but I really need my time away from them, too
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Sharon and I wanted kids from the get-go. Hell, we'd have another one if we thought it wouldn't take away from Drake and Vance. But having children is a choice. You either want them or you don't. I hate it when people try to tell others what to do in that situation. Both radical child-free types and the radical family breeding values crowd.
I love being a father. It's a fucking cool ass job. But it's not for everyone, and I think it's awesome you and your partner decided that it wasn't for you.
Besides, this only means we can get more attention for the boys when we visit, or whenever you guys visit! :P
I am glad you and Sharon wanted to have kids, and did. You are perfect daddy material, and are awesome at it. Some people aren't, and I don't think they have any business having children if they aren't capable of raising them.
I have a handful of friends that are in the "will/do make amazing parents" category, and I am thrilled any time one of them has a baby. By the same token, I have several friends who aren't of that ilk (and KNOW it), and I am just as thrilled when they get it permanently solved (up to, and including, going to the hospital to visit and shaking my pompoms for them (the black and white ones). You should see the hospital staff when I go happily wandering up the halls with my pompoms in hand. ;)
Between my reproductive organs trying to kill me from the get-go, and my experience of family life as constant fighting, having kids was never something I wanted to do. (And how weary I got of trying to explain that to people in Texas.) I'm happy with my furry kids, and that, said she, is that.
no kids was something that Spydrman and I both agreed on from the start, each for our own reasons. When things looked like they were actually going to last, we talked about it and marriage. We decided that neither sounded like a good fit for either of us, so that was it.
I was glad when I got sick, because it meant that yanking the works COULD happen. It was still a struggle, but getting most of my plumbing removed without the cancer would have been impossible.
I am still damn happy to be rid of it. I am glad I can never get pregnant (my line stops here), and I am glad that there won't be any children sucking up what little energy I have. I am a staunch supporter of and firm believer in permanent birth control.
20% ?! Yikes. The part that creeps me out are the ones out of that crowd that have children anyway. They must hate it.
I will ask you more about essure one of these days. I've been lazy, as Mike's had the snip it hasn't been a concern. I've heard nothing but good things abotu ablation.
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I love being a father. It's a fucking cool ass job. But it's not for everyone, and I think it's awesome you and your partner decided that it wasn't for you.
Besides, this only means we can get more attention for the boys when we visit, or whenever you guys visit! :P
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I have a handful of friends that are in the "will/do make amazing parents" category, and I am thrilled any time one of them has a baby. By the same token, I have several friends who aren't of that ilk (and KNOW it), and I am just as thrilled when they get it permanently solved (up to, and including, going to the hospital to visit and shaking my pompoms for them (the black and white ones). You should see the hospital staff when I go happily wandering up the halls with my pompoms in hand. ;)
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I was glad when I got sick, because it meant that yanking the works COULD happen. It was still a struggle, but getting most of my plumbing removed without the cancer would have been impossible.
I am still damn happy to be rid of it. I am glad I can never get pregnant (my line stops here), and I am glad that there won't be any children sucking up what little energy I have. I am a staunch supporter of and firm believer in permanent birth control.
woot *shakes pompoms*
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The part that creeps me out are the ones out of that crowd that have children anyway. They must hate it.
I will ask you more about essure one of these days. I've been lazy, as Mike's had the snip it hasn't been a concern. I've heard nothing but good things abotu ablation.
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