just a little love rant
something about the general human population pisses me off....
i cant stand when people say things like "relationships scare me" or "im single because i dont want to get my heart broken again."
sure, if one was in an abusive relationship of any kind, being afraid of relationships is understandable.
but if a person had a relationship that fell through the cracks or had their heart broken, being afraid of relationships purely from that just shows weakness to me. move on. get stronger. stop complaining.
i had my heart broken countless times. i have been in two serious relationships (not including my current one) and in both of them, i had been misreable for most of the duration of those relationships. one was unfaithful and distant, while the other was possesive, jealous, and constantly pressuring me for sex. those relationships negatively, maybe even permanently, affected my self confidence.
to be hurt by the one you love is the most painful feeling, but i do not regret loving these two people who hurt me. i am thankful for the experiences, because i learned so much from them. i could have easily stopped myself from pursuing another relationship, but if i had, i would not be in the incredible relationship that i have with ben. and even if ben and i were to break up, i would not regret my relationship with him and it would not stop me from finding someone else.
relationships are unpredictable in the long run, no matter how stable in the present. i am not afraid of emotional pain. i think that if someone is afraid of emotional pain, then they are not prepared for a relationship. if you are in a relationship, you WILL get hurt. even the most perfect of relationships have flaws.
i thrive on love. love from my friends, family, and from romantic relationships. everyone gets hurt from all these sources of love. i cant live without these people, though. they "complete me." (forgive my cheesy-goodness)
i just wish people were brave enough to fall in love without fear.
the thought of not being with ben scares me, but that is because i am content with our relationship. it is absolutely wonderful. if i were unsatisfied in this relationship, then that thought of not being with ben may seem for the better. i am never afraid to be single.
some people are in relationships because they are afraid of being single. they are in them just to be in them. i know that some people believe that i am like this because of the very short breaks in between my relationships. this was not because of a need to be in a relationship. it was just bad (or good) timing. i had no control over the timing.
i wrote more than i planned. oh well. maybe what i said will affect someone or make them think. or maybe not.
i cant stand when people say things like "relationships scare me" or "im single because i dont want to get my heart broken again."
sure, if one was in an abusive relationship of any kind, being afraid of relationships is understandable.
but if a person had a relationship that fell through the cracks or had their heart broken, being afraid of relationships purely from that just shows weakness to me. move on. get stronger. stop complaining.
i had my heart broken countless times. i have been in two serious relationships (not including my current one) and in both of them, i had been misreable for most of the duration of those relationships. one was unfaithful and distant, while the other was possesive, jealous, and constantly pressuring me for sex. those relationships negatively, maybe even permanently, affected my self confidence.
to be hurt by the one you love is the most painful feeling, but i do not regret loving these two people who hurt me. i am thankful for the experiences, because i learned so much from them. i could have easily stopped myself from pursuing another relationship, but if i had, i would not be in the incredible relationship that i have with ben. and even if ben and i were to break up, i would not regret my relationship with him and it would not stop me from finding someone else.
relationships are unpredictable in the long run, no matter how stable in the present. i am not afraid of emotional pain. i think that if someone is afraid of emotional pain, then they are not prepared for a relationship. if you are in a relationship, you WILL get hurt. even the most perfect of relationships have flaws.
i thrive on love. love from my friends, family, and from romantic relationships. everyone gets hurt from all these sources of love. i cant live without these people, though. they "complete me." (forgive my cheesy-goodness)
i just wish people were brave enough to fall in love without fear.
the thought of not being with ben scares me, but that is because i am content with our relationship. it is absolutely wonderful. if i were unsatisfied in this relationship, then that thought of not being with ben may seem for the better. i am never afraid to be single.
some people are in relationships because they are afraid of being single. they are in them just to be in them. i know that some people believe that i am like this because of the very short breaks in between my relationships. this was not because of a need to be in a relationship. it was just bad (or good) timing. i had no control over the timing.
i wrote more than i planned. oh well. maybe what i said will affect someone or make them think. or maybe not.