RAAAEEEG (kinda)
1st of all.... a few days a go my brother (19) and I were having a debate over whether girls/guys-only colleges were a good idea or bad. He thought they were bad. His argument was that, well, these are college kids and they need interaction with the opposite sex, and that it was totally possible to multi-task (talk/flirt before and after lectures but pay just as good attention during). But I was saying that woman who come out of all-girls schools usually feel empowered, are more confident, and go further with their degree than they would have otherwise because they weren't so influenced by perceived gender roles and stereotypes. Plus, having somebody who you like or were just flirting with before the lecture in the same room as you is going to take away from how much of the lesson you get, like it or not. And, unless your a social recluse, it's not like you can't see the opposite sex on the weekend. To which he said, that's not good enough. You can't just have weekly interaction, because you gotta keep your 'game' up. I said that was absurd, flirting is something that should come fairly naturally after you practice just a bit, and just because you don't flirt everyday doesn't mean your going to get bad at it.
To which he said...
wait for it...
"Easy for you to say, you're a girl, girls just have to sit there and look pretty while guys do all the real work,"
UUUHHHHGGGGG. I was positively seething with rage for the rest of the day. Worse, I couldn't argue back because our parents had banned us from debating any more (they called it "annoying, pointless arguments. Pfft.) Also, this implies that any girl who doesn't have guys all over her just isn't pretty enough and has no chance. *RAGE*
But, I just, I just get so angry when I hear things like that. And especially this, because a while ago I came across a guy on the web who basically posted a whole rant about "how hard guys have it while girls just have to be pretty". And at first it made me angry, but then I was like, whatever. It's just some asshole on the internet. But to hear that my brother shares this opinion? And it makes me wonder if it's a wide-spread idea among guys! Uhg. Makes me want to punch someone when I think about it. Preferably someone who shares this opinion...
/sigh
Anyways, 2nd thing. In leadership we got our Literacy for Little Ones assignments. This was actually the state-wide project last year, but apparently the teachers liked it so much they asked us to come back. I was very excited about this project until I got my group. I got... 2 girls who will be very quiet about the whole thing, and one girl who is going to do everything she can to control the entire project. This last girl is the one I'm going to have the most problems with. I mean, she's a nice enough person when she doesn't have to work with a team, but when she does...
Based on my (many) past experiences with this girl, here is my theory of how this will turn out:
Basically she's going to start off with an entire plan already in her head. She will probably share this plan fully with only 1 of the quiet girls because they are good friends, and no-one else. She will then proceed to tell us what to do, sharing only little bits of her scheme at a time. If anyone provides an idea that deviates too far from her plan, good or bad she will see it as a set-back, or even sabotage. If someone manages to wrestle control from her, and sets a new plan into motion that she doesn't quickly understand, she will give up on it and go back to doing her own thing instead of asking for clarification. She will be safe in the knowledge that we will eventually have to follow her again or risk ruining the project. She will demand work from everyone else while assigning herself the "organize everything important and plan the next step" job. The lines we will here most from her are "I don't know what ya'll are doing, but I've got everything I need done," "Look, just do this, we already know how it works," or "Look, just do this, it's easier," and maybe "That's not going to work, lets just stick to what we already have planned," (even though we won't know the whole plan).
And you know, usually I just stand aside and let her do her own thing because the projects we get put together for are usually not important or just work-tasks. But this time, I really want this to come out fabulous, because I've really been excited for this. And this girl's ideas are typically... less than extraordinary. For instance, when we were organizing class shirts, she made us separate them by size, find a paper that matches that size, put it with that paper, then match it with the homeroom. I tried to suggest that we simply grab a shirt, find a paper that matches that size, then put then a stack for each homeroom, eliminating a very time-consuming step. She didn't even let me get my full idea out before she said "look, all you have to do is organize the smalls, we're doing the homeroom piles,"
So.... I'm expecting problems. Probably some clashes of the wills. I'm not really afraid to stand up to her, because I don't really care what she thinks of me, so there may also be some yelling matches. I don't know yet. Well see how this turns out.
To which he said...
wait for it...
"Easy for you to say, you're a girl, girls just have to sit there and look pretty while guys do all the real work,"
UUUHHHHGGGGG. I was positively seething with rage for the rest of the day. Worse, I couldn't argue back because our parents had banned us from debating any more (they called it "annoying, pointless arguments. Pfft.) Also, this implies that any girl who doesn't have guys all over her just isn't pretty enough and has no chance. *RAGE*
But, I just, I just get so angry when I hear things like that. And especially this, because a while ago I came across a guy on the web who basically posted a whole rant about "how hard guys have it while girls just have to be pretty". And at first it made me angry, but then I was like, whatever. It's just some asshole on the internet. But to hear that my brother shares this opinion? And it makes me wonder if it's a wide-spread idea among guys! Uhg. Makes me want to punch someone when I think about it. Preferably someone who shares this opinion...
/sigh
Anyways, 2nd thing. In leadership we got our Literacy for Little Ones assignments. This was actually the state-wide project last year, but apparently the teachers liked it so much they asked us to come back. I was very excited about this project until I got my group. I got... 2 girls who will be very quiet about the whole thing, and one girl who is going to do everything she can to control the entire project. This last girl is the one I'm going to have the most problems with. I mean, she's a nice enough person when she doesn't have to work with a team, but when she does...
Based on my (many) past experiences with this girl, here is my theory of how this will turn out:
Basically she's going to start off with an entire plan already in her head. She will probably share this plan fully with only 1 of the quiet girls because they are good friends, and no-one else. She will then proceed to tell us what to do, sharing only little bits of her scheme at a time. If anyone provides an idea that deviates too far from her plan, good or bad she will see it as a set-back, or even sabotage. If someone manages to wrestle control from her, and sets a new plan into motion that she doesn't quickly understand, she will give up on it and go back to doing her own thing instead of asking for clarification. She will be safe in the knowledge that we will eventually have to follow her again or risk ruining the project. She will demand work from everyone else while assigning herself the "organize everything important and plan the next step" job. The lines we will here most from her are "I don't know what ya'll are doing, but I've got everything I need done," "Look, just do this, we already know how it works," or "Look, just do this, it's easier," and maybe "That's not going to work, lets just stick to what we already have planned," (even though we won't know the whole plan).
And you know, usually I just stand aside and let her do her own thing because the projects we get put together for are usually not important or just work-tasks. But this time, I really want this to come out fabulous, because I've really been excited for this. And this girl's ideas are typically... less than extraordinary. For instance, when we were organizing class shirts, she made us separate them by size, find a paper that matches that size, put it with that paper, then match it with the homeroom. I tried to suggest that we simply grab a shirt, find a paper that matches that size, then put then a stack for each homeroom, eliminating a very time-consuming step. She didn't even let me get my full idea out before she said "look, all you have to do is organize the smalls, we're doing the homeroom piles,"
So.... I'm expecting problems. Probably some clashes of the wills. I'm not really afraid to stand up to her, because I don't really care what she thinks of me, so there may also be some yelling matches. I don't know yet. Well see how this turns out.