I think the hardest part is when they won't be around for holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, and so on. Those are the things that get to me.
It is so important that there is a strong trust bond between the two of you because there will always be people out there who won't respect your relationship and who will go to great lengths to try to put a wedge there. You HAVE to be a united front and have a VERY thick skin.
The hardest part for me is when I hear the hurtful things that are said about me by people who don't even know me only because they think for whatever reason they would be better for my husband than I am. I am constantly being picked apart by these people. Jon just tells me that no matter what is said, the proof is in the pudding and in the end what they say means nothing. (It is even worse when it is people you know, but that doesn't happen as much, but it does happen.)
It is also hard to keep your insecurities to yourself, but I find it is necessary when he is away. I just keep in mind that there are always 10 other girls who are offering a stress free temporary situation. When someone is away from home and they call when they miss you they just want to hear your voice and that they are loved, the last thing they need to do is have someone on the other end of the line feeling all insecure and bitching about their bad day and so on. It will make them not want to call home. You don't want to be the spoiler of their good time. Being on the road is sort of like a long honeymoon away from you, they loose sight of reality a bit. (And you would never call Honeymooners to complain about day to day stuff right?) Any bitching about work or your friends can wait until they get home and back in the mix. It is shockingly easy to push someone away when they are a billion miles away.
So thick skin, patience and a lot of trust is what it takes to be successful in what is virtually a long distance relationship from time to time.
It is so important that there is a strong trust bond between the two of you because there will always be people out there who won't respect your relationship and who will go to great lengths to try to put a wedge there.
You HAVE to be a united front and have a VERY thick skin.
The hardest part for me is when I hear the hurtful things that are said about me by people who don't even know me only because they think for whatever reason they would be better for my husband than I am. I am constantly being picked apart by these people. Jon just tells me that no matter what is said, the proof is in the pudding and in the end what they say means nothing. (It is even worse when it is people you know, but that doesn't happen as much, but it does happen.)
It is also hard to keep your insecurities to yourself, but I find it is necessary when he is away. I just keep in mind that there are always 10 other girls who are offering a stress free temporary situation.
When someone is away from home and they call when they miss you they just want to hear your voice and that they are loved, the last thing they need to do is have someone on the other end of the line feeling all insecure and bitching about their bad day and so on. It will make them not want to call home. You don't want to be the spoiler of their good time.
Being on the road is sort of like a long honeymoon away from you, they loose sight of reality a bit. (And you would never call Honeymooners to complain about day to day stuff right?) Any bitching about work or your friends can wait until they get home and back in the mix. It is shockingly easy to push someone away when they are a billion miles away.
So thick skin, patience and a lot of trust is what it takes to be successful in what is virtually a long distance relationship from time to time.
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