I keep having dreams about Ruvin. I keep dreaming that awful awful things happened to her because I disappeared or because I let her go or because I didn't look for her
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Unfortunately, researchers still don't even know why we do dream though it is clear that it is necessary for our own psychological well being. We always dream even when we don't remember them the next day.
There are a few options that you can try to either change the dreams or so that you don't remember them anymore. They might not work, but it couldn't hurt to try them, right?
You can try writing down your thoughts and anxieties, listening to soothing music, or drinking something warm before you sleep. It will relax you and hopefully help you to have a more restful sleep.
You can input a lot of sensory when you wake up. It will help block out the memory of those dreams. You can put your alarm further from your bed so you have to wake up, get up, and move to turn it off while listening to the sound of it.
You can also try influencing the dreams by thinking now and all day before you sleep that you'll have a dream go a different way. You'll dream of the good times when it gets scary or you'll dream of a kitten. Over and over.
No guarantees, but it's better than facing the night without any tools at your side, right? This is kind of like your sword, shield, and armor here.
I get losing someone and loving them and dreaming about them. I do, but at some point you have to figure out how to let go or you'll lose out on living. And you deserve to live. Anyone who loved you would want you [pause as this hits home for him as well] to live too.
I know a lot about a lot of stuff. It's what I do. It's the whole angel thing. ;) Happy to help. Don't know if they will help, but y'know you can know there's a Mark out there thinking about you, hoping you sleep and sleep soundly.
Yeah, I know. People can hurt you a lot, but if you love them, you love them. It doesn't just go away. But it will. It'll get less and it won't hurt so much.
I don't think it ever hurts less. You just stop noticing it unless someone pokes it or you bump it against something. Like with a scrape.
Sometimes I look at my ring, the metal rose one? It belonged to my friend Nero. He was going to teach me how to make them, and I sort of think I fell in love with him, but I'm not sure 'cause I didn't really get a chance to realise before he disappeared? And most of the time I miss him but not too much but sometimes I see my ring at just the wrong time and it hurts just as much as when he first went missing.
It's just a matter of learning how to ignore it most of the time.
There are a few options that you can try to either change the dreams or so that you don't remember them anymore. They might not work, but it couldn't hurt to try them, right?
You can try writing down your thoughts and anxieties, listening to soothing music, or drinking something warm before you sleep. It will relax you and hopefully help you to have a more restful sleep.
You can input a lot of sensory when you wake up. It will help block out the memory of those dreams. You can put your alarm further from your bed so you have to wake up, get up, and move to turn it off while listening to the sound of it.
You can also try influencing the dreams by thinking now and all day before you sleep that you'll have a dream go a different way. You'll dream of the good times when it gets scary or you'll dream of a kitten. Over and over.
No guarantees, but it's better than facing the night without any tools at your side, right? This is kind of like your sword, shield, and armor here.
I get losing someone and loving them and dreaming about them. I do, but at some point you have to figure out how to let go or you'll lose out on living. And you deserve to live. Anyone who loved you would want you [pause as this hits home for him as well] to live too.
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I just... I miss her so much. Even if she broke up with me and broke my heart I miss her and...
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Yeah, I know. People can hurt you a lot, but if you love them, you love them. It doesn't just go away. But it will. It'll get less and it won't hurt so much.
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Sometimes I look at my ring, the metal rose one? It belonged to my friend Nero. He was going to teach me how to make them, and I sort of think I fell in love with him, but I'm not sure 'cause I didn't really get a chance to realise before he disappeared? And most of the time I miss him but not too much but sometimes I see my ring at just the wrong time and it hurts just as much as when he first went missing.
It's just a matter of learning how to ignore it most of the time.
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