What I think.
I'll start this by saying that I usually don't make comments in my LJ about ongoing 'issues' involving my friends or aquaintances. My lack of social filters combined with the written format has the strong potential to blow up in my face. I'm not at all saying that commenting on these things is bad- in other words, I am making no value judgements on ( Read more... )
Being honest with people and not hurting them is difficult. You're seeing me go through this same process with Luke. It's difficult, but, as my red bracelet tells me, the greatest priority is being able to live with the decisions I make. So let me be so bold as to unmuzzle my filters and offer the following advice:
1) You have a marriage, a social life, and, hopefully post-surgery, a career to return to. These strike me as things that should all be greater priorities in your life than NERO. If NERO and the egos associated with it are giving you grief and it is spreading to other fields of your life... for heaven's sake, get out!
2) Sooner rather than later. (Yeah, it's easy to say that, because I have the exact same issue with my need for honest conversation.) Whatever you decide--and I suspect by posting this you already have decided and are now looking for the words to express your feelings--you need to make the choice and stick with it.
3) Your husband is very involved with NERO. I respect Guy a great deal, and I admire his wanting to get this game off the ground, I've even offered to help him do so by helping with maps. But the offer to help and support does not come inclusive with the offer to play. I think you can fully support Guy in his effort, and even lend a sympathetic ear, and suggestions to him, and not be GM, or play. And I think he'll respect your choice, whatever it is, and welcome your efforts to support him just by being there for him.
4) Very few of my 'fictional' friends play NERO and we all cope. NERO is a choice, not an obligation. The ever-sensible Catherine and I, among others, intend to have fun each and every weekend the NERO vacuum hits the social scene this summer. Erin, your a great person, your filters, strong sense of ethics, persuasive personality, caring nature, and even willingness to martyr yourself, make you a great person to hang around with. You would be more than welcome to join us (and Catherine says she wants to meet you).
You will make the right decision. I am your friend, and will support and defend you, whatever it is.
Feel obliged to yourself first and foremost.
Best of luck.
Richard.
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You are a good friend :)
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