Why is it that you explode at him when you talk?.. Is it that you're angry that he seems to have moved on even though you're meant to be the one with the closure cuz you did the closing? Or is it because of something else?
Your first mission is probably to relinquish control, realise that you can't shape other people's destinies, even when you want them to be congruent with your own.
Darran was your first love, wasn't he? Would it help you to hear that I still have the letters that Ashley sent me when we were going out? It's not something you'll ever forget, and it doesn't get easier, sorry. You just get used to it as time goes on.
I don't think you're being unreasonable. I think you want something from him, but for the time being, you're not exactly sure what that is, on any level, and that's part of why he can't provide it. Which might help explain the anger when you see him?
The only reason I would say you need time to get over it all would be because you need to look inside yourself and find out what it is that you subconsciously need from him - what is it that remains unfinished?
But in truth, it's really hard to help you through this properly when I really know so little about it all, but I hope this at least helps a little bit...
Its just... that he moved on so quickly... I get the guilt for doing the dumping but for some reason I feel like I was the one who GOT dumped somehow. He got with Catherine so soon, before I got with Dave, he doesn't seem to care about me beyond the gratuitous being-nice-to-the-ex stuff... I mean we were best friends for years, I used to have sex with him, doesn't it count for anything . But he probably does care and just doesn't show it. I'd be grateful if he did though, I'd feel less like a big horrible mess. Which is currently what I am for many many reasons. But its mostly not all the time, I remain happy and upbeat mostly, then suddenly seem to crumple and collapse and cave it at random provocations. Maybe it is all hormonal. Thank you btw.
Your first mission is probably to relinquish control, realise that you can't shape other people's destinies, even when you want them to be congruent with your own.
Darran was your first love, wasn't he? Would it help you to hear that I still have the letters that Ashley sent me when we were going out? It's not something you'll ever forget, and it doesn't get easier, sorry. You just get used to it as time goes on.
I don't think you're being unreasonable. I think you want something from him, but for the time being, you're not exactly sure what that is, on any level, and that's part of why he can't provide it. Which might help explain the anger when you see him?
The only reason I would say you need time to get over it all would be because you need to look inside yourself and find out what it is that you subconsciously need from him - what is it that remains unfinished?
But in truth, it's really hard to help you through this properly when I really know so little about it all, but I hope this at least helps a little bit...
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