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Yesterday my mom left the house for 7 hours. She didn't tell anyone she was leaving. She wouldnt answer phone calls. we had no idea where she was. Shes gone crazy. Shes having a meltdown. Its apparently mine and my brothers fault for being so mean to her!? she wont talk to us. shes not coming to my horse show with me this weekend. shes completely gone off the deep end. she wrote me a letter, and i wrote one back, since she wont talk to me...
Dear Mom,
I just read your letter, and I realize I need to change my attitude towards you, and I will make a conscious effort to do so. I’m very sorry for hurting your feelings, it’s never intentional. Understand that I’m a teenager, and we are going to bump heads.
However, I think that what you did yesterday was very childish. You say you want us to grow up and act more like adults and take responsibility, but how can you expect that from us when you’re acting like a child? I’m the first and only person that realized you were missing yesterday. So, it you’re going to be mad about that, be mad at Dad too. I’m the one that called you 5 times worried sick. And you are mad no one came out to try and help you with the pool---I had just come in from pulling weeds, and even showed you where I was breaking out on my arms and legs. Also, I didn’t even know you were outside working on the pool, sorry, but I don’t feel I need to keep tabs on my mother all the time. How was I even supposed to know you left? Was I supposed to get up from my movie and go make sure you were still here? Was I just supposed to assume you were going to up and leave? That’s completely irrational.
I also don’t feel you have ANY right to come down on me about money. You know how concerned I am about money right now. I have no money left from being paid on Friday. I gave you $60, and paid over $20 for Jake’s food and lead rope. I can’t even remember the last time I asked you for money to spend on clothing or shoes or anything else like that. The only thing I rely on y’all for (monetarily) is for help with Jake. I don’t even want to go to the rally any more if it’s going to be this big of a deal. I haven’t done a show in 2 years, and even offered to sit this one out too. I don’t want to go. I’m the most responsible 17 year old I know. You didn’t even ask for my money the other day, but I still gave it to you because I want to help. I don’t know where you expect me to pull money from. If Jake is such a big burden, just sell him. We obviously can’t afford him anymore. I can’t pitch in with money any more than I already am. I’m sorry, but I’m only 17. I pay for most of my gas too. I hardly have any money left over for me. And that’s hard. I’m a kid, it shouldn’t be like that.
You also tried to tell me that Ryan is jealous of the time and money you spend on me and Jake. I SERIOUSLY doubt that is true at all. I’m pretty sure y’all just spent a lot of money for him to live in New York for 5 months. So please, don’t try and bring him into this. Y’all are also going to be paying for most of his rent. I think we are about even. I don’t see him giving you any of his paychecks. He’s almost 21; he should be less dependant on y’all than I am anyway.
And you say I don’t do anything around the house!? That’s a huge load of crap. Did you even notice how clean the game room was when you finally decided to come home last night? I don’t think so. No one asked me to do that, but I did. Out of everyone that lives in this house, I’m the one that’s here the least amount of time. During the school year, I’m gone until 2:30 with school. After that I have to go look after Jake. And when I had a part time job, there were nights I didn’t get home until 11. There are also nights when I have to baby-sit late too. On top of all of that, I have homework. I go to a hard school; I work hard to make decent grades. So yes, with any amount of down time I do have, I think I’ve earned being able to spend it with my friends or on the computer. During the summer, I get up at 7, to go baby-sit to make money to help out, and I don’t get home until 4:30. I do that FIVE times a week. After that, I still have to take care of Jake. I should be able to have down time. I work more than someone with a 9-5 job, and I’m 17 years old! So if I don’t have time to straighten up the house, please forgive me! I’m gone most of the day, earning money and taking care of my horse, he can’t take care of himself! I’m here less than any of y’all; I’m out working more than y’all.
And you suggesting that I’m mad about the car that I got is absolutely ridiculous. Yes, I would like to be able to have a really nice car, but who wouldn’t? I really do appreciate it. Thank you very much!
Mom, not talking to us is not solving anything. I think it is childish and immature. I would never dream of responding to a problem with you like this. If Ryan or I had left without telling anyone where we were going yesterday, were gone for 7 hours, and didn’t answer phone calls, we would be grounded for a long time.
Sorry if this letter is disorganized and I sound like I’m rambling, I just needed to get everything I had to say down on paper, since you won’t talk to me right now. I’m always going to love you, even if I do think you do crazy things and act like this sometimes.
My love for you is unconditional, you’re my mom!
--Claire
Dear Mom,
I just read your letter, and I realize I need to change my attitude towards you, and I will make a conscious effort to do so. I’m very sorry for hurting your feelings, it’s never intentional. Understand that I’m a teenager, and we are going to bump heads.
However, I think that what you did yesterday was very childish. You say you want us to grow up and act more like adults and take responsibility, but how can you expect that from us when you’re acting like a child? I’m the first and only person that realized you were missing yesterday. So, it you’re going to be mad about that, be mad at Dad too. I’m the one that called you 5 times worried sick. And you are mad no one came out to try and help you with the pool---I had just come in from pulling weeds, and even showed you where I was breaking out on my arms and legs. Also, I didn’t even know you were outside working on the pool, sorry, but I don’t feel I need to keep tabs on my mother all the time. How was I even supposed to know you left? Was I supposed to get up from my movie and go make sure you were still here? Was I just supposed to assume you were going to up and leave? That’s completely irrational.
I also don’t feel you have ANY right to come down on me about money. You know how concerned I am about money right now. I have no money left from being paid on Friday. I gave you $60, and paid over $20 for Jake’s food and lead rope. I can’t even remember the last time I asked you for money to spend on clothing or shoes or anything else like that. The only thing I rely on y’all for (monetarily) is for help with Jake. I don’t even want to go to the rally any more if it’s going to be this big of a deal. I haven’t done a show in 2 years, and even offered to sit this one out too. I don’t want to go. I’m the most responsible 17 year old I know. You didn’t even ask for my money the other day, but I still gave it to you because I want to help. I don’t know where you expect me to pull money from. If Jake is such a big burden, just sell him. We obviously can’t afford him anymore. I can’t pitch in with money any more than I already am. I’m sorry, but I’m only 17. I pay for most of my gas too. I hardly have any money left over for me. And that’s hard. I’m a kid, it shouldn’t be like that.
You also tried to tell me that Ryan is jealous of the time and money you spend on me and Jake. I SERIOUSLY doubt that is true at all. I’m pretty sure y’all just spent a lot of money for him to live in New York for 5 months. So please, don’t try and bring him into this. Y’all are also going to be paying for most of his rent. I think we are about even. I don’t see him giving you any of his paychecks. He’s almost 21; he should be less dependant on y’all than I am anyway.
And you say I don’t do anything around the house!? That’s a huge load of crap. Did you even notice how clean the game room was when you finally decided to come home last night? I don’t think so. No one asked me to do that, but I did. Out of everyone that lives in this house, I’m the one that’s here the least amount of time. During the school year, I’m gone until 2:30 with school. After that I have to go look after Jake. And when I had a part time job, there were nights I didn’t get home until 11. There are also nights when I have to baby-sit late too. On top of all of that, I have homework. I go to a hard school; I work hard to make decent grades. So yes, with any amount of down time I do have, I think I’ve earned being able to spend it with my friends or on the computer. During the summer, I get up at 7, to go baby-sit to make money to help out, and I don’t get home until 4:30. I do that FIVE times a week. After that, I still have to take care of Jake. I should be able to have down time. I work more than someone with a 9-5 job, and I’m 17 years old! So if I don’t have time to straighten up the house, please forgive me! I’m gone most of the day, earning money and taking care of my horse, he can’t take care of himself! I’m here less than any of y’all; I’m out working more than y’all.
And you suggesting that I’m mad about the car that I got is absolutely ridiculous. Yes, I would like to be able to have a really nice car, but who wouldn’t? I really do appreciate it. Thank you very much!
Mom, not talking to us is not solving anything. I think it is childish and immature. I would never dream of responding to a problem with you like this. If Ryan or I had left without telling anyone where we were going yesterday, were gone for 7 hours, and didn’t answer phone calls, we would be grounded for a long time.
Sorry if this letter is disorganized and I sound like I’m rambling, I just needed to get everything I had to say down on paper, since you won’t talk to me right now. I’m always going to love you, even if I do think you do crazy things and act like this sometimes.
My love for you is unconditional, you’re my mom!
--Claire