Learning to share
I have been a Daddies girl since I was a little girl, I use to think that he was a super hero and he was off saving the world, when I became a teenager we had what I imagine it a typical relationship between a girl and her father, scaring off boys, grounding me if I did not get good grades, I did a lot of yelling and door slamming. It took me many years, and many heartbreak before I realized that he did have my best interest at heart, and that I did not have to learn every lesson the hard way, I could trust in what he was telling me. My father and I got closer the older I got, and when I moved out our relationship got even better. We realized that we were a lot alike, not only did I listen to the advice he would give but I would ask his opinion on how to handle difficult situations. I soon came to think of him as more than my Dad but as a friend that would tell me what the right thing to do during difficult situation. Do not get me wrong, there are still times that we bump heads like we did when I was a teenager, but now we both realize that we are adults and we will sometimes disagree on the best way to handle a situation, and that is ok.. My father never really dated when we were young, I can only remember him seeing one woman all the time we were growing up and that did not last very long. I remember when my Dad said that he was starting to date I was surprised but glad that he was starting to move on. Our weekly dinners were filled with stories of the crazy women that he had net through a dating website,and awful dates, it was good for a laugh there were times he would ask my advice on if handled a situation well or if he should have done something differently. Then one evening during one of our weekly dinners I asked how the dating was going I got comfortable and waited for the crazy stories. He mentioned that he had been seeing the same woman for a few months but did not give any kind of details. No matter what I asked he just laughed and said that he would yell me more another time. I finally had to give up and trust that if it became serious he would introduce us.
When he had his knee operated on, I had stayed with him for a few weeks helping him since he was not able to move around very well. One evening when my Dad was felling better and moving around a bit easier I went to dinner with B. Dad assured me that he would be fine and that his girlfriend would be by to hang out with him while I was gone. I was shocked at the term girlfriend he had thrown it in there no hesitation . I was lost, when had things gotten so serious that she was his girlfriend? How could she have gotten to that level and I had never met her? Who was this woman? What did she do for a living, did she know that he had three kids, was she only with him because if his money? I almost fell over from the shock of what he had said and I tried to think of a reason why I could not go to dinner and why I had to be at the house it did not work B knew me well enough he knew that I just wanted to talk to this lady and do all I could to run her off. So instead we went to dinner, and I would not shut up about her, what does she look like, why had Dad said nothing till now, was she good enough for him? B was annoyed by the time that we left dinner and as we drove back as we drove back to Dad's we made a stop at HEB so that I could get some stuff for him, I was nervous wondering if she was going to be there when I got there. When we pulled up to dad's house I saw the unfamiluar car in front and knew that the wait was finally over. I wish that I could say that I was my funny amusing self and that we got along great. However that would not be the truth. It was awkward and uncomfortable. while I talked to B about her and how I did not like her he told me that I had not even given her a chance. When my father and I were alone he asked why I had not lifted my leg and peed on him to let her know, yeah I get it I was a bitc*&. I can not tell you what came over me, I can tell you that I now had a better understanding of what my father felt when boys would come pick me up for dates, not to the degree that he did as my father I had always wanted my Dad to start dating again, I thought that he needed someone to grow old with. I never had to have never really had to share my Dad with anyone. Yes I have two siblings but we all knew that I was his faviorate, middle child syndrome my butt. While I wanted my Dad to be happy when I saw her fussing over him after the surgery I felt sick to my stomach. I am not proud of my behavior and I was sure that she would forever think of me as the rude one.
When I got home B launched into me, he pointed out that J really seemed to have my Dads best interest at heart, and that really was the most important thing. She makes my dad laugh, I am still not proud about the way that I behaved when I first met J, The more that I have gotten to know her I know that she is just as loyal as I am and she understood where I was coming from. I never thought that I would be saying this, but I am glad that my Dad has found someone who makes him happy and I can not wait to see what the future takes the two of them because I know that no matter what it may be she will be right there by his side, so I guess I should say thank you to J for the joy that you have brought into my fathers life.
XOXO
When he had his knee operated on, I had stayed with him for a few weeks helping him since he was not able to move around very well. One evening when my Dad was felling better and moving around a bit easier I went to dinner with B. Dad assured me that he would be fine and that his girlfriend would be by to hang out with him while I was gone. I was shocked at the term girlfriend he had thrown it in there no hesitation . I was lost, when had things gotten so serious that she was his girlfriend? How could she have gotten to that level and I had never met her? Who was this woman? What did she do for a living, did she know that he had three kids, was she only with him because if his money? I almost fell over from the shock of what he had said and I tried to think of a reason why I could not go to dinner and why I had to be at the house it did not work B knew me well enough he knew that I just wanted to talk to this lady and do all I could to run her off. So instead we went to dinner, and I would not shut up about her, what does she look like, why had Dad said nothing till now, was she good enough for him? B was annoyed by the time that we left dinner and as we drove back as we drove back to Dad's we made a stop at HEB so that I could get some stuff for him, I was nervous wondering if she was going to be there when I got there. When we pulled up to dad's house I saw the unfamiluar car in front and knew that the wait was finally over. I wish that I could say that I was my funny amusing self and that we got along great. However that would not be the truth. It was awkward and uncomfortable. while I talked to B about her and how I did not like her he told me that I had not even given her a chance. When my father and I were alone he asked why I had not lifted my leg and peed on him to let her know, yeah I get it I was a bitc*&. I can not tell you what came over me, I can tell you that I now had a better understanding of what my father felt when boys would come pick me up for dates, not to the degree that he did as my father I had always wanted my Dad to start dating again, I thought that he needed someone to grow old with. I never had to have never really had to share my Dad with anyone. Yes I have two siblings but we all knew that I was his faviorate, middle child syndrome my butt. While I wanted my Dad to be happy when I saw her fussing over him after the surgery I felt sick to my stomach. I am not proud of my behavior and I was sure that she would forever think of me as the rude one.
When I got home B launched into me, he pointed out that J really seemed to have my Dads best interest at heart, and that really was the most important thing. She makes my dad laugh, I am still not proud about the way that I behaved when I first met J, The more that I have gotten to know her I know that she is just as loyal as I am and she understood where I was coming from. I never thought that I would be saying this, but I am glad that my Dad has found someone who makes him happy and I can not wait to see what the future takes the two of them because I know that no matter what it may be she will be right there by his side, so I guess I should say thank you to J for the joy that you have brought into my fathers life.
XOXO