* Be who you are, for you'll be critisized anyway *

[pinkmeltingpot]

I rarely post anything controversal because I HATE fights. Because I know we all can't think in the same direction. It's like that. Human gender is like this. But I'm kind of dissapointed and angry at the same time.

It was Aurora's decision to leave the page. I respect it. I'm NOT asking everybody to respect it. BUT I'd ask people to respect her. I

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[germansoulmate]

I hate to say it but A really was offensive and anything but accepting of different opinions. And I don´t talk about that infamous picture. I think of a thread she started about reincarnation. She posted a link to something Johnny must have said (you know, the polish jewish girl in times of the Holocaust) and asked what we think about that. Judith was the first one who commented something like that she wasn´t sure, or undecided. And A actually responded with "Oh, common...you don´t believe that shit" or something like that. In my eyes, that is disrespect of any opinion different from hers. She continued to mock almost every stated opinion by any poster. Did she really want to know what the users think about that topic? Or did she want to hear her opinion confirmed. Sorry, that is a behaviour I can´t tolerate.

And re God: I´m not religious. Never have been. But I respect anyone who believes in God and draws energy from his/her beliefs. And given that Johnny´s page is an US page, moderated by US citizens who as you also know are very religious generally, it was very disrespectful and ignorant what she tried to get across. A did not respect the feelings of the majority of the fans on this site. And I´m sure Johnny would have been embarrassed given the fact that he believes. Hell, I..as atheist...felt offended.

[pinkmeltingpot]

I understand your comment and I respect it. I also know I will contredict myself now. There are some posts of A I didn't read and maybe I should have. I was not aware of that. What you said is true, it's not something we can't tolerate.

Oh, I guess we all overreacted at some point (well me by posting this article, for sure). I was angry too. And hurt. I realize I was defending her, maybe more than I was supposed to. It's just that... I'm too sensitive when it comes to bashing some people. And she did too, I know. But not in the back. I'm not accusing anyone, I just wish ALL this would end :( You know? That we all become like we used to be. I'm not the only one who has said the page has changed. I'd like it to be like it was before...

My true opinion about everything is that it's not even, at the core, about Aurora. This whole text I wrote is because I think we should only talk about JOHNNY and JOHNNY ONLY now on the page (and make-up,...) but ban religious topics/convo & political ones. I know I said - once upon a time - that I was okay with those subjects, but if it leads to this and to people getting upset, then NO, I don't want them.

As for the page, I really think there should be moderators. I don't know WHO created the page, but there should be someone acting 24/7 (or almost) to moderate it. Maybe I'm asking too much?

To end this, I'm sorry if I hurted you. I'm sorry if I hurted anyone. Because I didn't mean it at all. I hope we're still good.

[germansoulmate]

You haven´t hurt me. In no way. I just stated my opinion.
I´m undecided about all that glitter, too much glitter some times, also. I mostly don´t respond to them.
I also try not to comment on any posts which include very hot topics (religion, openly stated transphobia etc., war) But I would welcome any posts that leads to serious discussion as long as the participants are civil to each other. I strongly believe that this site already has made a difference. Look at what we were able to accomplish with this Aids/bicycle ride thing. I strongly believe that many users´point of views already have started to change. I strongly believe all these effectless fights (where many users were turned off b/c of users like A) also have led to serious thinking. For instance,I looked up what being transgender or gender queer actually means and what the differences are to crossdressing or travesty or to being a transvestit. I still haven´t grasped it yet. But I`m working on it.

So, don´t feel insecure about stating your opinion at all. Just be kind. Which you are any way judging from what I have learned from you.

Hugs!

[pinkmeltingpot]

Thanks! Means a lot what you've said :') You have probably saved this evening, which was kind of confusing for me. I'm like this, you know? Sometimes, I'm like a boiling volcano and it's hard to keep my mouth shut. I won't insult anyone, but I'll tell my mind (which is - so to speak - like opening my heart). I'm usually very quiet but when it comes, it comes xD.

You are right about how the page changed things! And people on the page changed things greatly too! Weirlandia people has done amazing things (I'm not saying "We" because that would include me, and I don't have the feeling of having done great things).

I guess I'll just stay away of whatever topic seems dangerous. Sometimes it's hard too. I'm like that, playing with fire... ^^'.

But I think there will always be someone, one people, into any discussion of those kind who will not be civil to some other. And it will end up in flames again :/ that's what I'm afraid of. I would LOVE to discuss about such topics, share my ideas and listen to others opinions because that's WHY I make new friends. I just don't know if it's possible :/