I didn't marry him thinking he would convert, just hoped that eventually down the road he might. He comes with me every week, and he knows how important it is to me. He wants to do it for me but we only both want it if he's really into it. Hence the reason nothing's happened and probably won't. He's very respectful about everything though. Usually.
He actually DID come to me and asked that I not be so into church. I respected him when we were just dating and only went to sacrament with him, but I told him if we get married I'm going to want to go to all 3, and he said that is okay, but now that we're married, he wants more time together and feels that 3 hours is overdoing it. He says "it was fine before we got married that you only went to one hour, why can't you just keep it that way". It hurt but I saw where he was coming from. That's another issue I'm dealing with at the moment, trying to find a compromise with the church. We go to two hours, but he'll sit in the car during Priesthood while I go to Relief Society and he hates that, and I dont want him to have to do that.
*shrug* Lots of compromises. He's worth it though.
I've talked to him about the smoking, he feels it's not fair to smoke it outside, he wants to sit in his house and relax and smoke it, not have to go out alone on the balcony and not be able to really enjoy it. He doesn't want to have to "hide" it. I talked to him about just doing it on special occasions, because he wanted to smoke it at a party we were having this last weekend... he said it was our first party we're throwing so he wants to smoke it. He didn't because he said it isnt a big deal and doesnt want it to be an issue every time he wants to do it. He just wants to finish the bag of tobacco he has and then it wont be that big of a deal anymore cuz there's no more tobacco.
The tattoo we talked about and I told him he can get the tattoo, I completely understand why he wants that tattoo and I totally support the reasoning. It is his body, hence the reason he should be able to do what he wants. He asked about others and I told him if it's important to him then it's important to me. *shrug* It's not worth fighting about.
Thank you for the contact info, Nikki might be really helpful for me to talk to.
I didn't marry him thinking he would convert, just hoped that eventually down the road he might. He comes with me every week, and he knows how important it is to me. He wants to do it for me but we only both want it if he's really into it. Hence the reason nothing's happened and probably won't. He's very respectful about everything though. Usually.
He actually DID come to me and asked that I not be so into church. I respected him when we were just dating and only went to sacrament with him, but I told him if we get married I'm going to want to go to all 3, and he said that is okay, but now that we're married, he wants more time together and feels that 3 hours is overdoing it. He says "it was fine before we got married that you only went to one hour, why can't you just keep it that way". It hurt but I saw where he was coming from. That's another issue I'm dealing with at the moment, trying to find a compromise with the church. We go to two hours, but he'll sit in the car during Priesthood while I go to Relief Society and he hates that, and I dont want him to have to do that.
*shrug* Lots of compromises. He's worth it though.
I've talked to him about the smoking, he feels it's not fair to smoke it outside, he wants to sit in his house and relax and smoke it, not have to go out alone on the balcony and not be able to really enjoy it. He doesn't want to have to "hide" it. I talked to him about just doing it on special occasions, because he wanted to smoke it at a party we were having this last weekend... he said it was our first party we're throwing so he wants to smoke it. He didn't because he said it isnt a big deal and doesnt want it to be an issue every time he wants to do it. He just wants to finish the bag of tobacco he has and then it wont be that big of a deal anymore cuz there's no more tobacco.
The tattoo we talked about and I told him he can get the tattoo, I completely understand why he wants that tattoo and I totally support the reasoning. It is his body, hence the reason he should be able to do what he wants. He asked about others and I told him if it's important to him then it's important to me. *shrug* It's not worth fighting about.
Thank you for the contact info, Nikki might be really helpful for me to talk to.
Again, thank you for your help.
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