On the subject of friends...

[phxjohn]

With the wedding coming up, and lists being made, and an intervention with a friend who is struggling with friendship like I did when I was his age, the subject of friendship has been fresh on my mind

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[xswingkidx]

I was going through this same thing right about the first time I met you John. My best friend had just moved away and my other friends and I were going through different routes in life. I didn't really have anything in common with them anymore and was just staying friends with them for the sake that I had spent the last 7-8 years exclusively being part of that little group. Finally one night after a series of interactions I realized that I honestly had nothing in common with these people and also did not approve of anything that they were doing. I tried to hangout with them for a bit longer and sporadically kept in touch with them and finally decided to say "fuck it" because it was just obvious that we had nothing in common anymore and couldn't even be in the same room without one of us getting frustrated with the other. The memories of the good times are nice to have but knowing when to call it quits is equally important.

ps. I recently got back in contact with one of these people after he spent 5 years in the Navy. He is now married with two kids and we love meeting up now and then when our schedules line up. That is the only exception and I don't regret cutting off any of the friendships other than that.