Argh! Sorry, ranting ahead.
We had a barbecue for my mum's birthday at my aunt's place on Sunday. I ended up having a bit of an argument with my brother.
Ok, so I said something which amounted to verbal diarrhoea. I am overly sensitive about certain things and I took something the wrong way. Now I feel like I can't go to any family gatherings because I'm afraid I'll say something stupid again. I just don't want to deal with it.
Anyway, he asks me what's going on with the job situation. He doesn't see anything wrong with me working in a supermarket. Like WTF? How many goddamn times do I have to tell him that working in a supermarket will just make me go backwards in my depression? Why would anyone with a high intelligence want to work in a situation where they are more than likely going to be subjected to abuse from customers? I've been in situation like that before and I nearly had a breakdown. He just ... does ... not ... get it. And it's not like I haven't tried to apply for jobs in one of the supermarkets here (even over two years ago) but as soon as they see my resume they don't want to know.
I get that he wants me to have money coming in but no one in their right mind is going to hire someone with a degree because they know as soon as I find something more suitable I will be out of there. They know I won't stay, I know I won't stay. *screaming in frustration*
I'm sorry. Believe me, I want to be working, but with so much competition out there from younger, less qualified people, why would they even consider me? I can't even get an interview. He just doesn't get the attitudes out there. I've actually heard it from someone who talked to an employer. That person said they had a job vacancy come up and got resumes from people who were way over-qualified. Those people didn't even get an interview. Well, my friend asked them: 'did you ever stop to think that maybe they wanted a change?' Of course not. And they admitted it too.
Then he goes on about lies Mum apparently told him about wanting to move. She wanted to be able to catch the bus, and needed something more regular. Because of her health issues, she can't even catch the bus now as it's too much walking. She has a plate in her pelvis and gout in her knee. Her legs are so swollen she can't stand in one spot for too long or she'll collapse.
For crying out loud, they moved two years ago! Just drop the damn subject. It's over and done with. It's none of his business anyway.
I know he needs money for his kids etc. What with school uniforms and what have you. What he fails to understand is any money left over from the house sold up north is not Mum's. It's my stepdad's. And it's his choice not to give them any money.
Besides, it's not as if he's not lying about certain things. He tells me one thing, and he tells the parents something else. Like he's claiming he got a bonus from work and got the kids a swimming pool. According to the parents, they were told it was thousands of dollars. I was told it was less than that. He told them he borrowed money from his in-laws to pay for the pool.
His daughter needs a school uniform when she goes to high school in two years. That's two years away! Things could change in those two years. Why is he demanding money now?
His partner is apparently something of a hoarder. They have a garage full of stuff they could most likely sell and make a little bit of money off, but she won't do it. SMH. That woman has some serious mental health issues, but she's in denial.
I'm just so sick of the whole thing. People can tell me that I don't need to get involved but when I get it in one ear from my mum with her complaints that my brother never talks to her, and my brother complaining about everything else in the other ear, what am I supposed to do?
Stop the world. I wanna get off this nightmare-go-round.
Ok, so I said something which amounted to verbal diarrhoea. I am overly sensitive about certain things and I took something the wrong way. Now I feel like I can't go to any family gatherings because I'm afraid I'll say something stupid again. I just don't want to deal with it.
Anyway, he asks me what's going on with the job situation. He doesn't see anything wrong with me working in a supermarket. Like WTF? How many goddamn times do I have to tell him that working in a supermarket will just make me go backwards in my depression? Why would anyone with a high intelligence want to work in a situation where they are more than likely going to be subjected to abuse from customers? I've been in situation like that before and I nearly had a breakdown. He just ... does ... not ... get it. And it's not like I haven't tried to apply for jobs in one of the supermarkets here (even over two years ago) but as soon as they see my resume they don't want to know.
I get that he wants me to have money coming in but no one in their right mind is going to hire someone with a degree because they know as soon as I find something more suitable I will be out of there. They know I won't stay, I know I won't stay. *screaming in frustration*
I'm sorry. Believe me, I want to be working, but with so much competition out there from younger, less qualified people, why would they even consider me? I can't even get an interview. He just doesn't get the attitudes out there. I've actually heard it from someone who talked to an employer. That person said they had a job vacancy come up and got resumes from people who were way over-qualified. Those people didn't even get an interview. Well, my friend asked them: 'did you ever stop to think that maybe they wanted a change?' Of course not. And they admitted it too.
Then he goes on about lies Mum apparently told him about wanting to move. She wanted to be able to catch the bus, and needed something more regular. Because of her health issues, she can't even catch the bus now as it's too much walking. She has a plate in her pelvis and gout in her knee. Her legs are so swollen she can't stand in one spot for too long or she'll collapse.
For crying out loud, they moved two years ago! Just drop the damn subject. It's over and done with. It's none of his business anyway.
I know he needs money for his kids etc. What with school uniforms and what have you. What he fails to understand is any money left over from the house sold up north is not Mum's. It's my stepdad's. And it's his choice not to give them any money.
Besides, it's not as if he's not lying about certain things. He tells me one thing, and he tells the parents something else. Like he's claiming he got a bonus from work and got the kids a swimming pool. According to the parents, they were told it was thousands of dollars. I was told it was less than that. He told them he borrowed money from his in-laws to pay for the pool.
His daughter needs a school uniform when she goes to high school in two years. That's two years away! Things could change in those two years. Why is he demanding money now?
His partner is apparently something of a hoarder. They have a garage full of stuff they could most likely sell and make a little bit of money off, but she won't do it. SMH. That woman has some serious mental health issues, but she's in denial.
I'm just so sick of the whole thing. People can tell me that I don't need to get involved but when I get it in one ear from my mum with her complaints that my brother never talks to her, and my brother complaining about everything else in the other ear, what am I supposed to do?
Stop the world. I wanna get off this nightmare-go-round.