How do you let go of the past?

[phoenix1081]

Hello!

Hope you all had a wonderful holiday! (I know it's not over quite yet!)

bodpod thanks for the e-card hun! it was lovely! Sorry for not sending you one... um...i have no decent excuses

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[bodpod]

You're welcome for the card, sweetie. Don't worry that you didn't send one back. I don't send them to get them - I send them 'cause I like the people I'm sending them to. :)

You may never get the answers regarding your friend. You may just have to try to accept him for the person he is now if you want the friendship to continue. I know it's hard - a first love/lover is a very important person in a woman's life, and you want to feel the relationship was special. I'm sure he loved you - I agree with the others that it is a maturity issue. He probably continued to lie for so long because he's ashamed of his behavior.

I have a problem letting go of the past, too. For years I was really bothered by the way my relationship with my first love ended. There were so many things I felt were left unresolved. The funny thing is, I ran into him some years ago, and all it took was a casual, tension-free conversation about mundane things to make me feel better about the whole thing. I felt it was important to discover we could talk (even if it was about nothing) and didn't have to duck if we ran into each other in a public place. It also made me feel much better to know he didn't hate me, and to have reassured him of the same.
First loves come with a lot of baggage! *g* {{Hugs}}