Hey Nate, I wish I had my senior letter from you to quote directly but- if this which you speak of is the case- you owe Eric a lot of pokes with a mutilated paper clip. & Me for that matter for however far away from you I've fallen.
This is how I see it & you can just chose not to read it if you don't feel like it, but- here I go & I hope somewhere in this to make you feel, at least a little, better. I have this really tight knit group of friends. Have. Had. I'm still figuring out what to think. I try to hold on as best I can without being too clingy & girly. It's easy for me to be girly with this group of friends because, with the exception of 3 or 4, they're all guys (penis-carriers, if you will). I've thrown out that feeling girly horse shit & you & eric (for more reasons than the rest of you, but still) kevin, paul, chris, list list list... are just going to have to deal with it. Becuase I love my group. Yes, you are all nerdy & you pick on me sometimes. But I love you all to death, like crazy -the individual friendships I have with each of you as well as the collective friendship we all pick up on every time we get together (Athens weekend bad idea or not, I loved it). I love feeing a part of that. I don't know where this is going except, I guess, to make you remember that you are still a part of that. Dry spells. We all have them. Paul had one. Eric had one. I had one. Julia had one. you know... you picked up on them, I know because we talked about most of them. The difference here is wether you chose to do something about your dry spell. This "group" we have is full of a bunch of terribly independent, self-sufficient guys/girls (sometimes) with intellectual social problems. I'll say it. You all know it, but I'll say it. Sometimes keeping in touch hasn't crossed your mind for whatever reason, but I swear to you those friendships are still there. I still haven't figured out how to deal with it. Usually I just kick & scream & whine & bitch about being neglected & "How can you just walk away from this friendship that meant so much to you in high school" blah blah blah & make those guys responsible for not keeping in touch keep in touch & hang out with me. But, however you chose (might I suggest kicking & whining as I think it'd be slightly amuzing) to do it- as soon as you do- they'll be there. If I've learned anything, I've learned that. Give Julia a call, I bet she'd suporize you with how willing she is to hang out & even how willing she is to talk about issues/problems within your frienship with her (or with others). & please, confront Eric. He cares about you a lot more than he lets on & he's been hurt by you & issues witht he friendship as well, I promise. You guys just need to mediate & determine what's going to be best.
& relatoniships get strong in a lot of ways, but fighting is one of them. I swear. Just wait it out, you'll see.
All of this is true, Nate--Tracy speaks from experience, and I support her from experience. I love you a ton and, although I am busy/stressed, would never consider abandoning our friendship. Please call me--I would love to do anything I can, and maybe I could even help you sort through some of this, eh? Hang in there.
This is how I see it & you can just chose not to read it if you don't feel like it, but- here I go & I hope somewhere in this to make you feel, at least a little, better.
I have this really tight knit group of friends. Have. Had. I'm still figuring out what to think. I try to hold on as best I can without being too clingy & girly. It's easy for me to be girly with this group of friends because, with the exception of 3 or 4, they're all guys (penis-carriers, if you will).
I've thrown out that feeling girly horse shit & you & eric (for more reasons than the rest of you, but still) kevin, paul, chris, list list list... are just going to have to deal with it. Becuase I love my group.
Yes, you are all nerdy & you pick on me sometimes. But I love you all to death, like crazy -the individual friendships I have with each of you as well as the collective friendship we all pick up on every time we get together (Athens weekend bad idea or not, I loved it). I love feeing a part of that.
I don't know where this is going except, I guess, to make you remember that you are still a part of that.
Dry spells. We all have them. Paul had one. Eric had one. I had one. Julia had one.
you know... you picked up on them, I know because we talked about most of them.
The difference here is wether you chose to do something about your dry spell. This "group" we have is full of a bunch of terribly independent, self-sufficient guys/girls (sometimes) with intellectual social problems. I'll say it. You all know it, but I'll say it. Sometimes keeping in touch hasn't crossed your mind for whatever reason, but I swear to you those friendships are still there.
I still haven't figured out how to deal with it. Usually I just kick & scream & whine & bitch about being neglected & "How can you just walk away from this friendship that meant so much to you in high school" blah blah blah & make those guys responsible for not keeping in touch keep in touch & hang out with me. But, however you chose (might I suggest kicking & whining as I think it'd be slightly amuzing) to do it- as soon as you do- they'll be there. If I've learned anything, I've learned that.
Give Julia a call, I bet she'd suporize you with how willing she is to hang out & even how willing she is to talk about issues/problems within your frienship with her (or with others).
& please, confront Eric. He cares about you a lot more than he lets on & he's been hurt by you & issues witht he friendship as well, I promise. You guys just need to mediate & determine what's going to be best.
& relatoniships get strong in a lot of ways, but fighting is one of them. I swear. Just wait it out, you'll see.
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