odd night shift thoughts

[phillyboi32]

I have spent more time then I would like to processing the shit that went down with my neighbor's sister/family on Xmas. Erin is recovering slowly, but the overwhelming feeling of vulnerability we are both experiencing is hard to shake. Nothing has happened, no retaliation thus far. We went and spoke to our neighbor, Erin is much more diplomatic

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Be proactive.

[alljackedup63]

If I were in your shoes I'd go take karate (any form) somewhere local. You absolutely need to know how to defend yourself physically now it's the only language some guys know.

We've been looking up places that teach kids how to fight back from predators. They already have taken a class on how to escape but they need to know the physical part of it too.
when you get comfortable in hitting someone then you are only 1/2 way there.
Something I learned after I became a truck driver and moved around the country and away from liberal California....just because *I'm* not a racist doesn't mean everyone around me isn't....and they assume I am because they are... That has doubled since I am now seen as a good ole white boy in Texas.

becoming wholly responsiblefor the 4 kids I have has scared the living crap outta me. I understand your fear.

Re: Be proactive.

[phillyboi32]

thanks Jack- really. I appreciate the perspective. I am not able to take a class at the moment (I am burried with school and work for the spring/summer) but I think it's a good idea for me to learn to hit.... oddly enough, and learn to BE hit if need be.

the kid-fear comes right down to feeling vulnerable ALL THE TIME right now. and they are not even here yet. oy.

I am working on it all. I think I will keep my shit together better when I am done working night shifts.

thanks again.

Re: Be proactive.

[alljackedup63]

Oh hey I wanted to add..letting Erin speak for you both to the neighbor was a wise choice. Messages coming from women regarding conflict are usually taken much better and with less animosity then if you were to have done it. So don't let yourself feel weird about that I let Kris speak for me in some situations because I tend to be a hothead and really have no tact whatsoever LOL... while she's the ultimate diplomat.
I've been hesitant to reply cuz I didn't wanna seem like a buttinski.. I hope I didn't come across that way. Unfortunately my early life has taught me a lot about conflict and violence.

Night shift sucks! I work 3 12's and it kills me because I still have the kids during the day those days when I should be trying to get more than a 2 hour catnap here and there. But damnit it's a great schdule for our family so I gotta go with it.