Revisionist Flirting
There are two revisions to my flirting workshops that I would like to mention
The first is my answer to “What is Flirting?”
I used to reference Webster’s definition, paraphrased here:
A form of human interaction between two people, expressing a romantic and/or sexual interest. --- People who flirt may speak and act in a way that suggests greater intimacy than is generally considered appropriate to the relationship (or to the amount of time the two people have known each other), without actually saying or doing anything that breaches any serious social norms.
But I didn’t like that it was focused on romance/sex/intimacy.
Then I changed it to “A form of escalated connection between two people” not long after that a friend of mine defined flirting at “The art of making and escalating connections” I will now be incorporating that phrasing in my workshop.
The second thing I am changing is “The Three Types of Flirting “
1 Flirting without intent
2 Flirting with intent
3 Flirting on the hunt.
I have been using that definition ever since I started developing these workshops. And it has been an ongoing discussion/debate about the difference between 2 and 3. There is a
I am going to change #2 to “Flirting with possibilities”
It is not perfect but it is easier to say than “Flirting without intent but open to the possibility of more”
In summary:
Flirting is the art of making and escalating connections.
1 Flirting with no intent
2 Flirting with possibilities
3 Flirting on the hunt/intent/prowl.
The first is my answer to “What is Flirting?”
I used to reference Webster’s definition, paraphrased here:
A form of human interaction between two people, expressing a romantic and/or sexual interest. --- People who flirt may speak and act in a way that suggests greater intimacy than is generally considered appropriate to the relationship (or to the amount of time the two people have known each other), without actually saying or doing anything that breaches any serious social norms.
But I didn’t like that it was focused on romance/sex/intimacy.
Then I changed it to “A form of escalated connection between two people” not long after that a friend of mine defined flirting at “The art of making and escalating connections” I will now be incorporating that phrasing in my workshop.
The second thing I am changing is “The Three Types of Flirting “
1 Flirting without intent
2 Flirting with intent
3 Flirting on the hunt.
I have been using that definition ever since I started developing these workshops. And it has been an ongoing discussion/debate about the difference between 2 and 3. There is a
I am going to change #2 to “Flirting with possibilities”
It is not perfect but it is easier to say than “Flirting without intent but open to the possibility of more”
In summary:
Flirting is the art of making and escalating connections.
1 Flirting with no intent
2 Flirting with possibilities
3 Flirting on the hunt/intent/prowl.