Illusion of Control

[peppermintyrose]

No spankings this week for me. I'm on time, and on my best behaviour (relative to the PMR standard of behaviour though). I actually wanted to share a funny link this week that I got sent - Straw Feminists - a hilarious take on the Straw Man argument technique. The comic is a hilarious depiction of the notion that all feminists are ball breaking

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[thyradane]

NOW I`m finally back from my vacations and have a keyboard again. Writing comments from your iPhone just isn`t any fun. Now when you are a person who loves to use a lot of words to get her opinion through, at least

[thyradane]

And just to use a couple more words:

Sookie is doing extremely well under the circumstances. She is hearing everything people is saying - which is a lot of BS, probably - and yet functioning. She is dealing with monsters and yet surviving. She is poor, lonely and has (or at least, had) crappy friends and yet she is nice to other people.

What more could anyone expect? IMO she`s Super-Sookie already.

[peppermintyrose]

Totally - she's pretty spectacular just as she is - and I think she should be admired for having the gumption to do all that she does.

[peppermintyrose]

Punish that keyboard! :D

Lol - at this rate, I'll post once a year. :D

I don't think people with disabilities always feel like the disability is foremost. But there are times when they need consideration from the rest of us, and that means that when we ignore those disabilities, they just don't get it.

I agree with you that Sookie (and you) have been shaped by experiences - and if the telepathy disappeared tomorrow, she wouldn't know what to do with herself. She wouldn't instantly become Suzy Homemaker, that's for sure.

I also think that at the heart of your argument about it being indivisible from the person, there's really the kernel of truth - that we should accept people as they are - the good parts and the bad parts. It's unfortunate that Sookie usually isn't *allowed* to have bad parts. Everyone wants to erase them.

Oh yes - the straw feminist drives me around the bend.

[thyradane]

A friend of mine, who had to spend a year in a wheelchair, always said "I`m not my wheelchair" and I got what he was saying. I suppose the point is that you want to be seen as a whole person but you *also* want people to not force you into taking the steps if you`re in a wheelchair. Just like I don`t tell you to use the men`s room if you`re a woman. Or expect you to reach the high shelves if you`re short

[peppermintyrose]

Yeah - to be the whole person is really the point. It gets to my eldest when it's all romanticised - he hates it when he's told that his disability makes him a better person, because that's kind of trying to make out like disabilities are always wonderful helpful things

[thyradane]

That`s like saying women are better than men or Africans are better than Europeans because it`s some magical experience being a black woman that you come out a better person from it. No, it`s a *different* experience being a woman to being a man or being black to being white. Doesn`t make you a better person

[peppermintyrose]

I agree - there's nothing about the experience that makes people automatically wonderful beings of light.

I think in cases like that, they haven't extrapolated it out to see what other minorities think about things. It's just thoughtless stuff.

Lol - yep - pretty much.

I don't debate these guys - they positively scare me. I wouldn't like to meet them in real life. But at their hearts, they're pretty fucking stupid.