It will not fall in the top! :)) Because most people are too lazy to read, much less think about, all the issues discussed in this post. :)) Thank you for taking the time to read!
Sex is not just a pleasure. Sex can actually be a tool for achieving the deepest level of communication and intimacy with another human being. But it doesn't just happen out of the blue. Sex is a skill. The less you have it, the less you need it. And if you train your body and mind for several years to manage without it, then I guess there's little chance that you'll feel sexual attraction toward your ideal man if you ever meet him. Moreover, I think that sexual attraction is one of the most important elements on a quest for soulmate. It's not that you find your soulmate and than feel a sexual attraction to him. I think that for most of us it's more likely to happen the other way around.
Everyone is different, and I don't worry about never being sexually attracted to another man. I'm constantly attracted to them...however, I strongly disagree on your last point. For instance, I once dated a beautiful male specimen - immediately I was sexually attracted to him, but then grew bored after a few weeks. Because he only had something attractive to offer on the outside, not the inside. He was not an interesting person, or dynamic in any way. Yet all of my long term boyfriends have not been so attractive by societal standards - we started as friends first, and then sexual attraction and passion intensified once I learned more about them as a human being. Not just their outer shell...so, you see, we are different. How many hours a day are you having sex with your partner? :)) The most important thing is communication, trust, respect...and the rest should naturally flow from it...if not, then you simply remain friends, not lovers. :)
The answer is easy - 100 Love Sonnets by the poet Pablo Neruda. Erotic, romantic, passionate...every word in every poem of this collection is perfect. :)
I love the handful of the earth you are. Because of its meadows, vast as a planet, I have no other star. You are my replica of the multiplying universe.
Your wide eyes are the only light I know from extinguished constellations; your skin throbs like the streak of a meteor through rain.
Your hips were that much of the moon for me; your deep mouth and its delights, that much sun; your heart, fiery with its long red rays,
was that much ardent light, like honey in the shade. So I pass across your burning form, kissing you - compact and planetary, my dove, my globe
I'm still breathing, and feel more alive and content now than when I was in unfulfilling relationships with the wrong men. I'm too old for that aggravation, and I'd rather be alone than suffer or have just "anybody" beside me each night in bed...it's not so hard to live without a man, trust me. Is this a blow to your ego? :))
because for me sex without some type of bond beyond the pure physical is meaningless (c)
I like the answer from some man from Buenos-Aires : If I make love with woman , so I love her in this moment . It's does not matter how long this relation , may be for one night only .
This is fine, but not for me. :) I do not merely want fleeting or singular moments of passion or connection with a multitude of men...one is enough. :)
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Thank you for sober thought on life ;)
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But it doesn't just happen out of the blue. Sex is a skill. The less you have it, the less you need it. And if you train your body and mind for several years to manage without it, then I guess there's little chance that you'll feel sexual attraction toward your ideal man if you ever meet him. Moreover, I think that sexual attraction is one of the most important elements on a quest for soulmate. It's not that you find your soulmate and than feel a sexual attraction to him. I think that for most of us it's more likely to happen the other way around.
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I love the handful of the earth you are.
Because of its meadows, vast as a planet,
I have no other star. You are my replica
of the multiplying universe.
Your wide eyes are the only light I know
from extinguished constellations;
your skin throbs like the streak
of a meteor through rain.
Your hips were that much of the moon for me;
your deep mouth and its delights, that much sun;
your heart, fiery with its long red rays,
was that much ardent light, like honey in the shade.
So I pass across your burning form, kissing
you - compact and planetary, my dove, my globe
:))))
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People don't live so long!..
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I like the answer from some man from Buenos-Aires : If I make love with woman , so I love her in this moment . It's does not matter how long this relation , may be for one night only .
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