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Everyone I know is getting married.
Alright, that's an exaggeration.
In truth, there are approximately six couples who have either just gotten engaged, just gotten married, or have been engaged and are in the process of planning their wedding. For the record, most of them are older than I am and are further into their lives. But I've still gotten the bug. I want the ring and the dress and the food and the parties. I want what Steve and I to be official (though I'm on the fence about the whole name change thing). Anyway, I'm not here to whine.
While we were celebrating a co-worker's (we'll call him Larry) engagement at work, one of my cube-mates (we'll call him Ronald) started talking about how marriage changes everything. How the "old Larry" has to die, how his wife will suck all the fun out of his life, how he'll always have the last words ("Yes, dear"), and how, "the wedding is great and how everything else is... /sigh." Larry brought up that he had been living with his soon-to-be wife for going on six years. Ronald declared that this didn't matter, that everything will change anyway.
I think this is complete bullshit.
Back in the day, when Ronald himself got married, this may have been true. But couples didn't traditionally cohabitate back then (living in sin, etc). Now, they do. And I think that if you're living with your significant other the way you're supposed to be, you'll be fine. There shouldn't be a monumental shift in the way either of you live just because there's now a permanent piece of jewelry installed on your finger. Cooking, cleaning, sharing the bathroom, paying the bills... All of it should be the same, should just carry on normally. I don't understand the mechanism by how it could change.
I mean, the whole point of living with your significant other, if you're serious, is to see whether or not you would be well suited to spend the rest of your lives together. Ideally, you'd figure out the basic mechanics of living together. You'd work through problems when they start and stop them before they get out of control. You'd take vacations and spend money and cook and clean and fart and vomit and get sick and cry and live, and all of this to find out whether or not you can handle the other person's quirks. If you're honest and open and understanding, there shouldn't be a problem after you get married.
Eh, this whole rant feels disjointed, but I don't care. I don't think there's any more I can say on it. Just if you're living together and you're doing it right, a wedding - your wedding - shouldn't change anything. And if it does, one of you has been lying.
Alright, that's an exaggeration.
In truth, there are approximately six couples who have either just gotten engaged, just gotten married, or have been engaged and are in the process of planning their wedding. For the record, most of them are older than I am and are further into their lives. But I've still gotten the bug. I want the ring and the dress and the food and the parties. I want what Steve and I to be official (though I'm on the fence about the whole name change thing). Anyway, I'm not here to whine.
While we were celebrating a co-worker's (we'll call him Larry) engagement at work, one of my cube-mates (we'll call him Ronald) started talking about how marriage changes everything. How the "old Larry" has to die, how his wife will suck all the fun out of his life, how he'll always have the last words ("Yes, dear"), and how, "the wedding is great and how everything else is... /sigh." Larry brought up that he had been living with his soon-to-be wife for going on six years. Ronald declared that this didn't matter, that everything will change anyway.
I think this is complete bullshit.
Back in the day, when Ronald himself got married, this may have been true. But couples didn't traditionally cohabitate back then (living in sin, etc). Now, they do. And I think that if you're living with your significant other the way you're supposed to be, you'll be fine. There shouldn't be a monumental shift in the way either of you live just because there's now a permanent piece of jewelry installed on your finger. Cooking, cleaning, sharing the bathroom, paying the bills... All of it should be the same, should just carry on normally. I don't understand the mechanism by how it could change.
I mean, the whole point of living with your significant other, if you're serious, is to see whether or not you would be well suited to spend the rest of your lives together. Ideally, you'd figure out the basic mechanics of living together. You'd work through problems when they start and stop them before they get out of control. You'd take vacations and spend money and cook and clean and fart and vomit and get sick and cry and live, and all of this to find out whether or not you can handle the other person's quirks. If you're honest and open and understanding, there shouldn't be a problem after you get married.
Eh, this whole rant feels disjointed, but I don't care. I don't think there's any more I can say on it. Just if you're living together and you're doing it right, a wedding - your wedding - shouldn't change anything. And if it does, one of you has been lying.