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Sometimes I feel like I'm creating problems where there are none. (I mean, I have to come up with SOMETHING now that the kid is nearly all done with potty training, right? ;)) But here goes. Thoughts and/or advice welcome.
N is 2.75 years. There is another boy, P, who is 4. They go to the same daycare/preschool and are in different rooms, but outside time is usually all combined ages, so they spend plenty of time together. And have gotten in trouble for biffing and bashing quite a bit. (Anyone else's kids obsessed with Thomas the Tank Engine? Biffing and Bashing are crashing things -- sometimes people! -- into each other like engines and freight cars.) We've gone over a gazillion times with the N that biffing and bashing are not nice and not acceptable behavior. He mostly gets it when at home. I never see him do it at the playground with other children. But when he's with P... Ugh.
The complication is not so much at preschool, but at church and church school where they are together and cause all kinds of havoc. (It's a small group of maybe two dozen people total with kids ranging in age from 2-8. ) My initial thought was that it was P initiating things. I've seen N with other groups of kids and he's perfectly fine, in fact he's kind of reticent and keeps to himself a bit. But with P, he goes all kinds of haywire. On closer observation, I really think it's the combination of the two of them more than any one starting things.
Leaving church school is not an option. Getting P's mom involved is difficult because she's also the pastor and generally has her hands full already. (Yes, it's occurred to me that this might be contributing to the problem.) No amount of time out, quiet time away from P, or talking about good vs bad behavior has helped. The second N is back near P, he's back to being insane.
Any thoughts on how to proceed? I get inordinately stressed whenever we have church school and never enjoy a second of it because I spend the whole time trying to keep N & P somewhat under control. Thanks! (And sorry for the length. I am not known for conciseness. ;))
N is 2.75 years. There is another boy, P, who is 4. They go to the same daycare/preschool and are in different rooms, but outside time is usually all combined ages, so they spend plenty of time together. And have gotten in trouble for biffing and bashing quite a bit. (Anyone else's kids obsessed with Thomas the Tank Engine? Biffing and Bashing are crashing things -- sometimes people! -- into each other like engines and freight cars.) We've gone over a gazillion times with the N that biffing and bashing are not nice and not acceptable behavior. He mostly gets it when at home. I never see him do it at the playground with other children. But when he's with P... Ugh.
The complication is not so much at preschool, but at church and church school where they are together and cause all kinds of havoc. (It's a small group of maybe two dozen people total with kids ranging in age from 2-8. ) My initial thought was that it was P initiating things. I've seen N with other groups of kids and he's perfectly fine, in fact he's kind of reticent and keeps to himself a bit. But with P, he goes all kinds of haywire. On closer observation, I really think it's the combination of the two of them more than any one starting things.
Leaving church school is not an option. Getting P's mom involved is difficult because she's also the pastor and generally has her hands full already. (Yes, it's occurred to me that this might be contributing to the problem.) No amount of time out, quiet time away from P, or talking about good vs bad behavior has helped. The second N is back near P, he's back to being insane.
Any thoughts on how to proceed? I get inordinately stressed whenever we have church school and never enjoy a second of it because I spend the whole time trying to keep N & P somewhat under control. Thanks! (And sorry for the length. I am not known for conciseness. ;))