I feel like an idiot for wanting to leave a marriage that realy doesn't have that much wrong with it (compared to various marriages that we both hear about) or feel like shit for being so selfish about what I want to be willing to put my daughter through all that. Dazed and confused, it just isn't funny anymore.
this is exactly how i feel at times ...i will want to be seperate from my husband but at the same time we have a pretty good realtionship why mess all that up for the kids (i have three)when i just want to be my own person and not be attached to the shit about him that pisses me off. and one of my kids is not by him ..he came into the relationship and i already had him ...but sometime their relationship is strange and he get mad about the dad ...ahh sorry dont mean to dump..
i just wanted to say i understand ..and can offer this bit of my knowledge...if you and your wife are unhappy you daughter all ready knows ..trust me i had parents that were unhappy for a very long time ..and i always wished that they would divorce and then they would be happier and i wouldnt have to deal with them being unhappy ....
and ask your self this .....are you a better parent because you stay because it is the right thing to do? i truly dont think so ..sometimes we are better parents if we leave the sitation that hurts us then if we stay and all our problems impound us.
you have to do what is right for you and in the end it will work out with your daughter and maybe if you what is right for you it may be right for your wife as well.
and i wanted to say i am jelous as hell your kid is starting school now..i cant wait for mine to go back
But the thing is, we're happy a lot of the time. I'm not happy with my marriage, but I love my daughter we all three can have so much fun together. If my daughter is picking up on my feelings, I don't see it.
this is exactly how i feel at times ...i will want to be seperate from my husband but at the same time we have a pretty good realtionship why mess all that up for the kids (i have three)when i just want to be my own person and not be attached to the shit about him that pisses me off. and one of my kids is not by him ..he came into the relationship and i already had him ...but sometime their relationship is strange and he get mad about the dad ...ahh sorry dont mean to dump..
i just wanted to say i understand ..and can offer this bit of my knowledge...if you and your wife are unhappy you daughter all ready knows ..trust me i had parents that were unhappy for a very long time ..and i always wished that they would divorce and then they would be happier and i wouldnt have to deal with them being unhappy ....
and ask your self this .....are you a better parent because you stay because it is the right thing to do? i truly dont think so ..sometimes we are better parents if we leave the sitation that hurts us then if we stay and all our problems impound us.
you have to do what is right for you and in the end it will work out with your daughter and maybe if you what is right for you it may be right for your wife as well.
and i wanted to say i am jelous as hell your kid is starting school now..i cant wait for mine to go back
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