More of the same
A post by Meg in her journal made me wanna post stuff that's been on my mind lately. This was basically my comment on her journal as well but I feel like getting it out there anyways. Basically she was saying how she missed some friends she made in an online game room and how its so hard to make online friends matter and how you don't really always know your online friends like you should.
The part about not knowing your online friends enough and undervaluing them is how I've been feeling for the last month or more. What I find so sad about it all though, is that sometimes you just can't do anything about it once you've lost touch, no matter what you want to change. Even if you haven't lost complete touch its still not as easy as "REAL LIFE" (add mental reverb here, lol) cause you can't just kidnap an online friend that is drifting away and spend time with them to get re-acquainted. Not that you do that with your RL friends often, but face to face time is what seems to bring people together. And with RL friends, it just happens. Sure people drift apart even in real life, but if you feel you are being ignored by a RL friend, they aren't returning your calls or what not, you can hunt them down and make them at least tell you to your face what the problem is. Not so with anyone online.
It's so much easier for online people to ignore you if you email them they can just not get them, and I'm not talking even about blocking your email. I'm sure some people get many legitimate emails a day, and they just decide not to read or deal with them all, so they ignore ones they don't feel like dealing with, and that can send them off the first page and after that they don't ever see it again. And of course they could just block your email, or change theirs, if they don't already have more than one.
That makes it so much more difficult to keep them as friends, especially if they feel they have a reason to ignore you and aren't just doing it by accident, so to speak. It's not true about everyone, but online, people seem to be so much more sensitive about things. Maybe my mind is over exaggerating things, but I remember back in the day when I was into all the net stuff, chatrooms forums all that, people were so over serious about everything. Every friend online was a best friend, little misunderstandings were declarations for war... I'm sure you all know what I mean.
I'm just sad thinking that I may have lost friends, internet friends though they may be, over something stupid I said or did that I was truly sorry over, and I just never got a chance to apologize. Even worse, I may never even know if I did something wrong. And I know not all net people, or net friends are those life long close friends, but there are several that I wish were those close friends.
Well I've gotten that out there, just a little continuation of my last post I guess. Its all just been making me sad lately, partly because of friends I miss and partly because I feel I have no control over it. If the friendship is destined to end, then it will end, but I wish I at least had a chance to fight for it.
The part about not knowing your online friends enough and undervaluing them is how I've been feeling for the last month or more. What I find so sad about it all though, is that sometimes you just can't do anything about it once you've lost touch, no matter what you want to change. Even if you haven't lost complete touch its still not as easy as "REAL LIFE" (add mental reverb here, lol) cause you can't just kidnap an online friend that is drifting away and spend time with them to get re-acquainted. Not that you do that with your RL friends often, but face to face time is what seems to bring people together. And with RL friends, it just happens. Sure people drift apart even in real life, but if you feel you are being ignored by a RL friend, they aren't returning your calls or what not, you can hunt them down and make them at least tell you to your face what the problem is. Not so with anyone online.
It's so much easier for online people to ignore you if you email them they can just not get them, and I'm not talking even about blocking your email. I'm sure some people get many legitimate emails a day, and they just decide not to read or deal with them all, so they ignore ones they don't feel like dealing with, and that can send them off the first page and after that they don't ever see it again. And of course they could just block your email, or change theirs, if they don't already have more than one.
That makes it so much more difficult to keep them as friends, especially if they feel they have a reason to ignore you and aren't just doing it by accident, so to speak. It's not true about everyone, but online, people seem to be so much more sensitive about things. Maybe my mind is over exaggerating things, but I remember back in the day when I was into all the net stuff, chatrooms forums all that, people were so over serious about everything. Every friend online was a best friend, little misunderstandings were declarations for war... I'm sure you all know what I mean.
I'm just sad thinking that I may have lost friends, internet friends though they may be, over something stupid I said or did that I was truly sorry over, and I just never got a chance to apologize. Even worse, I may never even know if I did something wrong. And I know not all net people, or net friends are those life long close friends, but there are several that I wish were those close friends.
Well I've gotten that out there, just a little continuation of my last post I guess. Its all just been making me sad lately, partly because of friends I miss and partly because I feel I have no control over it. If the friendship is destined to end, then it will end, but I wish I at least had a chance to fight for it.