Wait, have the bullies been expelled then? Surely some justice must have been brought upon the bullies who made a beautiful girl feel ugly about herself.
I'm glad that Ilse feels better about her body and is going through therapy, but I don't agree with her parents letting her have the surgery. That won't, as Ilse said herself, stop the bullying. It's a temporary fix, and it sounds like Ilse knows that too. If she gets bullied again, then I hope she's gained the strength to tell them to piss off and then inform an adult to throw the book at them.
If her school experience was anything like my school experience, then she probably has teachers who are too cowardly/apathetic to do anything about the bullying. The good news is that the bullies will probably mature by high school so that she can enjoy the rest of her school years without harassment.
She doesn't have any. I saw a piece on this on CNN this morning. From what I could tell (didn't have my coffee yet), she was made fun of for having a large nose. When the surgeon starting talking about "fixing" her ears and chin, I had to change the channel, tbh.
"Correcting" whatever a bully is harassing you about isn't the solution to bullying, but I'm glad that she feels better about herself now. Maybe the self-confidence boost will be what she needs to help her recover from the harassment.
Meanwhile, I hope the bullies have been dealt with harshly.
Yeah I had to think that as well. I was bullied from elementary school on for a great many things and most of them weren't really connected to how I looked - it was just an easy target.
What it was was I was an outcast and an obvious victim (sorry kids - like adults - can smell it on you I think) of severe child abuse. As abusers exist due to silence and that is ingrained in the victim, you don't call out the bullies and it perpetuates.
However the other side of that coin is whatever you can do to cope. If this helps the victim - and others - then I can't really throw stones. I still carry the baggage at 48 years of age through thousands of dollars of therapy.
I got teased MERCILESSLY for having large eyes as a child but as I got older, I grew into them, so to speak. I think this girl would have done the same, just as you said and just like I did. Plenty of people have big features. (ears, eyes, noses, etc) It's hardly a deformity! Personally, I saw nothing wrong with her "before" pic! She looks like a typical girl to me.
And also, I don't think anyone should change who they are because someone else doesn't like it. That's just catering to them and letting those bullying her win.
I don't know, maybe it's the fact that I'm in my thirties now but I feel like if you don't like how the hell I look, don't look at me.
I've seen something similar on the local news were I live but it was a little boy who wanted his ears fixed. It might be wrong but I think this surgery is stupid. But I guess it's not different then someone who get implants because they were made fun of for being flat chested.
Are there fourteen-year-olds getting breast implants? Because that is ALL KINDS of fucked up. Unless you means adults in which case... an adult getting plastic surgery is nowhere near the same as a kid getting it. :/
I mean I guess getting it done at 17/18 IS better than at 14, but even then most girls are still developing. :/ They don't let you get Lasic until your eyes are done developing, shouldn't it be the same for any other part of your body?
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I'm glad that Ilse feels better about her body and is going through therapy, but I don't agree with her parents letting her have the surgery. That won't, as Ilse said herself, stop the bullying. It's a temporary fix, and it sounds like Ilse knows that too. If she gets bullied again, then I hope she's gained the strength to tell them to piss off and then inform an adult to throw the book at them.
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What it was was I was an outcast and an obvious victim (sorry kids - like adults - can smell it on you I think) of severe child abuse. As abusers exist due to silence and that is ingrained in the victim, you don't call out the bullies and it perpetuates.
However the other side of that coin is whatever you can do to cope. If this helps the victim - and others - then I can't really throw stones. I still carry the baggage at 48 years of age through thousands of dollars of therapy.
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I got teased MERCILESSLY for having large eyes as a child but as I got older, I grew into them, so to speak. I think this girl would have done the same, just as you said and just like I did. Plenty of people have big features. (ears, eyes, noses, etc) It's hardly a deformity! Personally, I saw nothing wrong with her "before" pic! She looks like a typical girl to me.
And also, I don't think anyone should change who they are because someone else doesn't like it. That's just catering to them and letting those bullying her win.
I don't know, maybe it's the fact that I'm in my thirties now but I feel like if you don't like how the hell I look, don't look at me.
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It might be wrong but I think this surgery is stupid. But I guess it's not different then someone who get implants because they were made fun of for being flat chested.
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