Of all the secrets of war, there is one that is so well kept that it exists mostly as a rumour. It is usually denied by the perpetrator and his victim. Governments, aid agencies and human rights defenders at the UN barely acknowledge its possibility. Yet every now and then someone gathers the courage to tell of it. This is just what happened on an
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The fact that the wives leave them makes me a bit angry for some reason.
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Don't know if that's what you were thinking, but that's what came to my mind.
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I also think there's a problem with the idea that being raped makes you weak, somehow. Being mugged or tortured don't have the same connotations, but somehow rape does. Maybe gendering it has something to do with that, maybe not, but I think... I think the whole thing might be fucked up and fucking up survivors and how they can cope?
(Note: I might also find this upsetting and hard to articulate as a dude who's a survivor and had trouble finding resources as such. I do think the culture surrounding the gendering of rape makes it ... highly gendered in a weird way. I think it's great that women have support and that there has been a movement to help and aid them. But articles like this and talking to other male survivors makes me scared and sick because of that weird gendering.)
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Now, I think a focus on the fact that it's overwhelmingly men who commit sexual assault would be okay, and would accomplish a lot more. I don't know.
(fwiw, I'm in basically the same boat as you are. And at the time when I was assaulted I wasn't out as male to anyone around me, so the bizarre gendering of SA and of my own personal experience by others... really, really fucked me up. So.)
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