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Right or wrong, corporal punishment can produce winners

Mar 13, 2013 13:54

A former coach recalls a harrowing experience and physical abuse in high school hoops
by Richard Parker
It was shaping up to be just another day at practice. The high school’s head basketball coach, who was young and still trying to establish himself, was picking on the captain of the once-famous girls’ team, jumping on her every mistake and yelling ( Read more... )

japan, opinion piece, *trigger warning: suicide, sports, *trigger warning: abuse, *trigger warning: violence

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mollywobbles867 March 13 2013, 15:08:32 UTC

Don't really care if it's ~tradition~: hitting children is never okay.

zinnia_rose March 13 2013, 22:11:39 UTC

This. Tradition is not an excuse for child abuse.

brucelynn April 2 2013, 23:12:12 UTC

mte

hellaine March 13 2013, 17:00:23 UTC

Oh man corporal punishment.

Semi-tangent I guess, but in our house the rule is sort of no one anywhere, not even in the family, can touch your body in any way you do not want them to. If you say no, it means no, whether it's a sexual touch, a violent touch, no means no. I mean, barring a medical emergency or something, of course. So no one hits each others, we don't hit or spank or 'tap' the children, they don't do it to us, that's the rule. If they get in trouble, we deal with it within the family rules of no violating bodily integrity or whatnot. IDK, I know everyone has different views on this, but that works for us and helps us all retain respect and trust for each other.

hellaine March 13 2013, 17:01:31 UTC

It's always a strange thing to me when people say 'My parents hit me and I turned out okay'. What does that mean, did you turn out okay BECAUSE they hit you, or IN SPITE of them hitting you? *shrug*

ljtaylor March 14 2013, 09:49:26 UTC

well, mine hit me and I'd say that, for the most part, I *did* turn out okay...but nevertheless, I think it's a truly awful punishment and driven purely by irrational rage. My dad once kneed me in the back for not putting a spoon in the dishwasher! I think a no-touching rule is a brilliant idea.

romp March 13 2013, 17:53:55 UTC

We have the same rule and I'd like to think many do. How else do you SHOW that your body is your own?

People justify how they were treated because they want to show how fine they are but isn't getting physical with a child just saying that you can do what you want if you're bigger and stronger? That's not a good message to give to a boy or girl.

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ginger_maya March 13 2013, 17:45:14 UTC

*Abuse Produces Winners - there, I fixed that title for the author ( ... )

ahria March 13 2013, 17:50:13 UTC

I took a trip to Japan when I was 15 and my host family took me swimming at a community pool. A swim team was practicing there and I saw the coach slap one of the girls (probably 15-17 years old) right in the face. I just stood there with my mouth hanging open. Before we went, we were "warned" that that was a cultural thing so we should just ignore it if we saw it but it was really shocking anyway.

vulturoso March 13 2013, 17:58:43 UTC

Seeing someone get hit is extremely uncomfortable, gah. :(

romp March 13 2013, 17:56:04 UTC

I didn't know this. Fuck the defenders of abuse. My reaction to the opening was to wonder how many suicides result and how many damaged people who are abusive or emotionally shut-down.

Bad headline IMO since the story ends in the suicide. Big fucking deal if a kid wins a race only to be miserable and want to escape before she's even grown.