Right or wrong, corporal punishment can produce winners

[citzera]

A former coach recalls a harrowing experience and physical abuse in high school hoops
by Richard Parker
It was shaping up to be just another day at practice. The high school’s head basketball coach, who was young and still trying to establish himself, was picking on the captain of the once-famous girls’ team, jumping on her every mistake and yelling

Comments

[hellaine]

Oh man corporal punishment.

Semi-tangent I guess, but in our house the rule is sort of no one anywhere, not even in the family, can touch your body in any way you do not want them to. If you say no, it means no, whether it's a sexual touch, a violent touch, no means no. I mean, barring a medical emergency or something, of course. So no one hits each others, we don't hit or spank or 'tap' the children, they don't do it to us, that's the rule. If they get in trouble, we deal with it within the family rules of no violating bodily integrity or whatnot. IDK, I know everyone has different views on this, but that works for us and helps us all retain respect and trust for each other.

[hellaine]

It's always a strange thing to me when people say 'My parents hit me and I turned out okay'. What does that mean, did you turn out okay BECAUSE they hit you, or IN SPITE of them hitting you? *shrug*

[ljtaylor]

well, mine hit me and I'd say that, for the most part, I *did* turn out okay...but nevertheless, I think it's a truly awful punishment and driven purely by irrational rage. My dad once kneed me in the back for not putting a spoon in the dishwasher! I think a no-touching rule is a brilliant idea.

[romp]

We have the same rule and I'd like to think many do. How else do you SHOW that your body is your own?

People justify how they were treated because they want to show how fine they are but isn't getting physical with a child just saying that you can do what you want if you're bigger and stronger? That's not a good message to give to a boy or girl.

[keeni84]

YES, THANK YOU!