Surrogate offered $10,000 to abort baby

[natyanayaki]

(CNN) -- Crystal Kelley ran through the calendar once again in her head

Comments

[mahasin]

I'd add crappy surrogates, but that's cause I think Kelley is a crappy person.

It wasn't her choice to make.

And honestly, I hate people who are against abortion but a-ok with IVF. Fucking hypocrites.

[natyanayaki]

I agree and I disagree. On the one hand, she did sign a contract in which she waived her privacy rights and agreed to an abortion under certain conditions, on the other hand it's her body and nothing should be done to it without her consent. So which consent is paramount? Her consent at the time of signing, or her consent right before the abortion? I don't think she should be forced to have an abortion against her will, even though she signed the contract, even though it's not her child, but if she goes against the wishes of the said parents, then does she forfeit her salary? Should she be required to return her fee?

[mahasin]

I think that when you agree to be a surrogate you are kind of giving up the decision making regarding your own uterus and body. I mean, lets say in order to ensure a healthy birth of the baby she needed to get some sort of shot, does she have the right to refuse those shots if it means the fetus wouldn't survive

[natyanayaki]

If she's morally against abortion, then why sign a contract with an abortion clause? Why ask for more money?

[ohmiya_sg]

Precisely. She should not have signed a contract including an eventuality she was not prepared to commit to. It wasn't a penalty for behavior she could avoid, just a random chance.

[natyanayaki]

I kind of feel she might owe the family some sort of a refund...or the legal fees. But having this single mom who is short on cash pay won't help anyone either. Ugh. Such a mess.

[kittenmommy]

If she's morally against abortion, then why sign a contract with an abortion clause? Why ask for more money?

This. She was willing to do it for $15,000 but claims she changed her mind immediately... not when the parents refused to pay that amount. Sure, I believe that.

I was honestly expecting to read she'd fled to Michigan, had the baby, kept her, and was now suing the parents for the full cost of medical care and whatever other money she could get.

/is cynical

[natyanayaki]

I wouldn't be surprised if she refused the abortion and voided the contract for that reason. Like you said earlier, the only people who seem to be guilt free are the adoptive parents, but I'm not sure that there isn't something more there either.

[kittenmommy]

We're both realists very cynical people. ;)

[natyanayaki]

Do you tend to trust other animal species more than humans (I kind of assume so b/c of your name/picture)...because I tend to. :-P

[kittenmommy]

LOL, yes I do! I trust my cats more than most people, heh.

[natyanayaki]

:-)

[tnganon]

it's so funny to joke about how cynical you are about people while denying personhood to a poor single mother in a shitty situation :-)

[natyanayaki]

Never did that, try again.

[tnganon]

except you think that the surrogate parents who attempted to coerce a poor woman into having an abortion against her will are blameless ("guilt free") in this

[natyanayaki]

Never said that, I've said the only seemingly good adults are the adoptive parents, and even for that I added a qualifier.

Try again.