I canceled the sleepover

[onionsoupmix]

My 8 year old was going to have a sleepover for her birthday party. It was a big deal, with lots of planning and excitement. Making cupcakes, seeing a movie, getting their nails done, etc.

We invited a few kids from the neighborhood, one of them was our secular ( possibly not Jewish?) next door neighbor's kid, a cute second grader.

Today, one of my

Comments

[hamaskil]

Might be a little bit too harsh, in my opinion... After all, this is what they're taught in school.

Tamei

[hamaskil]

Your daughter told you about the hurtful exchange. This means she was troubled by it and wanted validation from you. It would have been wise to strengthen her in standing by her friend. Having courage to set rather than follow trends is a skill to be nurtured.

Re: Tamei

[onionsoupmix]

No, I heard about this from my younger daughter who was upset that the ostracized child went home crying and now wouldn't play with my younger kid either.

Re: Tamei

[hamaskil]

Were there any additional witnesses ? Was she sworn in ? Did you allow the other girls to testify ? :)

Re: Tamei

[onionsoupmix]

Yes, yes :)
I spoke to the all the girls involved and verified what happened and who said what before I gave out the punishment.

Re: Tamei

[hamaskil]

Hmm. Still, they go to the school which encourages this kind of thinking. Now, if they would attend a public school which actually spends some time teaching that racism isn't a good thing, that would be different...

[onionsoupmix]

I don't know, think about it from the other side. What if you heard that your kids couldn't play at other people's houses because they were Jews and would contaminate all the toys?

[hamaskil]

It depends who's saying that. 7 years old brains aren't yet fully developed, I'd say.