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Experience is said to be very important in a relationship. Experience, though, is important to start things off, and the learning curve is what keeps things going. To have similar, or maybe complementary experiences, makes a relationship exciting and natural in the beginning. Common interests, tastes, et cetera, will make one feel right at home. Often, all the little minor quirks that become so conspicuous later on, are of some trouble, but the biggest thing that kills a relationship is not anger, but apathy. While one may come into a relationship with many of the same points of similarity, who knows in which order, or to which extent something has been touched upon? It doesn't make a difference in the beginning, when everything is in the past, but the order and depth upon which something is touched during the relationship can make or break it. I couldn't say that it need to be common intellectual growth, but that there must be a fairly consistent line of growth over time. Finding someone at the right point isn't the issue, then. A rocky beginning may be perfectly acceptable, or even for the best, if the projected paths share closer slopes.
Right now, I'm very curious to see how one thing will turn out: society goes through cycles, like everything else. The dichotomy of classical and romantic lines of thougt is an important one, and right now, it seems to me that we're quite far on the romantic side. "Do what you love to do," "live for the moment," etc. Those always seem to be the rule of the day. You dont hear "think of the future," and "take care of yourself because no one owes you anything." I know that I'm heading down a more classical line. I am pursuing a line of work and such that doesn't interest me, but that I think will be stable and smart (while, being persuaded to take it a bit easier on myself at times, due to Nikki and others). The question I want answered, then, is... how will we turn out? Will the romantics end up penniless? If so, will the diligent and compassionate feed them? Or will the rational have wasted precious time and be locked in a miserable position, while everyone turns out to be successful in his own particular field? Hopefully I'll have good advice and good stories when I'm a grandfather.
Right now, I'm very curious to see how one thing will turn out: society goes through cycles, like everything else. The dichotomy of classical and romantic lines of thougt is an important one, and right now, it seems to me that we're quite far on the romantic side. "Do what you love to do," "live for the moment," etc. Those always seem to be the rule of the day. You dont hear "think of the future," and "take care of yourself because no one owes you anything." I know that I'm heading down a more classical line. I am pursuing a line of work and such that doesn't interest me, but that I think will be stable and smart (while, being persuaded to take it a bit easier on myself at times, due to Nikki and others). The question I want answered, then, is... how will we turn out? Will the romantics end up penniless? If so, will the diligent and compassionate feed them? Or will the rational have wasted precious time and be locked in a miserable position, while everyone turns out to be successful in his own particular field? Hopefully I'll have good advice and good stories when I'm a grandfather.