Life Goes On
Oh what a horribly emotional nightmare of a few weeks.
My ex boyfriend (also previously known as male best friend) has been an absolute bitch to me for a while now. It intensified a few weeks ago when I called him to see how he was doing because he'd been sick for a week. He then proceeded to tell me in detail about what he and his new squeeze got up to the night before, until 5am in the morning. Wonderful.
The new squeeze was not single, she was cheating on her boyfriend with him (I have no idea what her status is now). I let him know in no uncertain terms my opinion of people who cheat, and that I thought he could do better than that if he wanted a girlfriend. After a few days, he realises he was pretty stupid to tell me all about what they got up to, and apologised. You think it would stop there, yeah?
I stopped making any effort in friendship because he wasn't able to stop talking about his sexual feats with the new lass. Unfortunately, because I work with him (different departments though) and so does the new girl, I am unable to avoid him entirely. However, so far, I have managed to not know who she is. I was quite alright with that.
Well, I was. That was until I get an sms from him passing on a message from her, which to sum it up, said that if I looked at her funny one more time she was going to smack me one. Right. She knows I don't know who she is. He knows I don't know who she is. How the hell am I looking at her funny, if I don't know who the hell she is? Well, I laughed. I still do kind of find it funny. Unfortunately though, I have developed a slight paranoia because usually when someone threatens to smack you one, you know who they are, and you'll see it coming when it happens. I don't have that luxury yet.
The next day as I'm leaving work, he grabs me and wants to "talk". I explain our friendship is actually irreparable, and that I don't appreciate someone I don't know, making threats against me at work. He tells me he doesn't want any trouble and that he's told her off for saying something like that (no mention of the fact that he's the idiot who passed it on to me in the first place). We leave it at that.
After discussing the situation with my manager (who has by now, noticed that I am looking slightly stressed out at work) we have a laugh, and he has a new pet project. No details as to what this is yet. Just something to do with the person silly enough to make a threat against one of his key staff members. I manage to spend the next day far less paranoid - this is assisted by knowing she is on RDO's.
Then ex boyfriend turns up at the end of another one of my shifts looking all stressed out. Turns out a joke I cracked on msn about a particularly crude msn nickname of his, has actually offended him. I apologise countless times and tell him I was not intending an offence. I'm pretty sure he doesn't believe me, but I kind of don't care - it was just a joke. He then proceeds to tell me that I'm trouble, a spiteful person, and I need to stay the *blank* away from the girl. He says this several times.
It never seems to sink in to him that I don't know this person. How do you stay the *blank* away from someone you don't know? So when I return to work, the first move will be to find out who she is.
Aside from all of the above rubbish... I'm actually doing really well.
I've been going to the gym at least once a week since the end of January. I haven't lost much weight but done a lot of toning up - my body is definitely a different shape. I have a hot gym guy who helps me out by making me lift weights that I am sure I can't lift, and making me do all sorts of inordinately painful exercise related activities.
Work is excellent (again, aside from the above rubbish...). I am unofficially 2IC. Still doing the same help desk job - just have a new employer. The company outsourced us and will eventually phase us out of their work. At that point I'll probably look elsewhere - depending what new contracts and jobs the new employer tries to shove onto us.
I've finally found some friends who are single, have similar beliefs, are perennially poor, and have a great love of life. I went on a brilliant holiday trip to Greece, Turkey and Israel in March - I will now be in debt to my parents for the next 30 years to pay it all off :D
I know this is an absolutely massive post, however I just needed to put it all out somewhere. Thanks. :)
My ex boyfriend (also previously known as male best friend) has been an absolute bitch to me for a while now. It intensified a few weeks ago when I called him to see how he was doing because he'd been sick for a week. He then proceeded to tell me in detail about what he and his new squeeze got up to the night before, until 5am in the morning. Wonderful.
The new squeeze was not single, she was cheating on her boyfriend with him (I have no idea what her status is now). I let him know in no uncertain terms my opinion of people who cheat, and that I thought he could do better than that if he wanted a girlfriend. After a few days, he realises he was pretty stupid to tell me all about what they got up to, and apologised. You think it would stop there, yeah?
I stopped making any effort in friendship because he wasn't able to stop talking about his sexual feats with the new lass. Unfortunately, because I work with him (different departments though) and so does the new girl, I am unable to avoid him entirely. However, so far, I have managed to not know who she is. I was quite alright with that.
Well, I was. That was until I get an sms from him passing on a message from her, which to sum it up, said that if I looked at her funny one more time she was going to smack me one. Right. She knows I don't know who she is. He knows I don't know who she is. How the hell am I looking at her funny, if I don't know who the hell she is? Well, I laughed. I still do kind of find it funny. Unfortunately though, I have developed a slight paranoia because usually when someone threatens to smack you one, you know who they are, and you'll see it coming when it happens. I don't have that luxury yet.
The next day as I'm leaving work, he grabs me and wants to "talk". I explain our friendship is actually irreparable, and that I don't appreciate someone I don't know, making threats against me at work. He tells me he doesn't want any trouble and that he's told her off for saying something like that (no mention of the fact that he's the idiot who passed it on to me in the first place). We leave it at that.
After discussing the situation with my manager (who has by now, noticed that I am looking slightly stressed out at work) we have a laugh, and he has a new pet project. No details as to what this is yet. Just something to do with the person silly enough to make a threat against one of his key staff members. I manage to spend the next day far less paranoid - this is assisted by knowing she is on RDO's.
Then ex boyfriend turns up at the end of another one of my shifts looking all stressed out. Turns out a joke I cracked on msn about a particularly crude msn nickname of his, has actually offended him. I apologise countless times and tell him I was not intending an offence. I'm pretty sure he doesn't believe me, but I kind of don't care - it was just a joke. He then proceeds to tell me that I'm trouble, a spiteful person, and I need to stay the *blank* away from the girl. He says this several times.
It never seems to sink in to him that I don't know this person. How do you stay the *blank* away from someone you don't know? So when I return to work, the first move will be to find out who she is.
Aside from all of the above rubbish... I'm actually doing really well.
I've been going to the gym at least once a week since the end of January. I haven't lost much weight but done a lot of toning up - my body is definitely a different shape. I have a hot gym guy who helps me out by making me lift weights that I am sure I can't lift, and making me do all sorts of inordinately painful exercise related activities.
Work is excellent (again, aside from the above rubbish...). I am unofficially 2IC. Still doing the same help desk job - just have a new employer. The company outsourced us and will eventually phase us out of their work. At that point I'll probably look elsewhere - depending what new contracts and jobs the new employer tries to shove onto us.
I've finally found some friends who are single, have similar beliefs, are perennially poor, and have a great love of life. I went on a brilliant holiday trip to Greece, Turkey and Israel in March - I will now be in debt to my parents for the next 30 years to pay it all off :D
I know this is an absolutely massive post, however I just needed to put it all out somewhere. Thanks. :)