Inviting your gay friends to your wedding is like getting into a country club that doesn't allow black people and inviting all your black friends to a party to celebrate
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Well, I moved to Canada, so it's not really an issue here, but I certainly can understand how it must feel to be excluded from marriage as an institution and then go to participate in other people's celebrations.
I guess that I feel like going to a friend's wedding is about supporting your friends more so than supporting the institution of marriage and its exclusivity. The wedding isn't about celebrating or even acknowledging the legal aspect of marriage. All the paperwork after the fact is about that. The wedding is generally more about the people (or the religious aspect, which I could not personally care any less about). A gay wedding is not any different than a straight wedding (except that one I went to in Philly on Halloween at midnight, where the vows were madlibs), what is different is the marriage and that's obviously from a recognition standpoint. So I guess, fuck the paperwork, celebrate the love. If it's a wedding for people you don't give two shits about, don't go. But if you love the people and support their lives together, share in it.
I guess my opinion is a good portion full of crap since I'm seeing things from an outside perspective though and I accept that. It's just that the way I see it, regardless of having a wedding or not, day to day life is the same. The wedding itself doesn't change that. Obviously, there are lots of gay couples who have weddings and sadly, that doesn't change shit for their lives after the wedding. They still don't have the family rights that hetero couples take for granted. I see the wedding as a symbol and the meaning of that symbol can be different things. It can either be a symbol of the legal meaning of marriage and the bullshit that the governments choose to impose upon it or a symbol of two people's love and their wanting you to share in that love. Or more to the point, it can be a celebration of a legal contract or a celebration of love.
I guess that I feel like going to a friend's wedding is about supporting your friends more so than supporting the institution of marriage and its exclusivity. The wedding isn't about celebrating or even acknowledging the legal aspect of marriage. All the paperwork after the fact is about that. The wedding is generally more about the people (or the religious aspect, which I could not personally care any less about). A gay wedding is not any different than a straight wedding (except that one I went to in Philly on Halloween at midnight, where the vows were madlibs), what is different is the marriage and that's obviously from a recognition standpoint. So I guess, fuck the paperwork, celebrate the love. If it's a wedding for people you don't give two shits about, don't go. But if you love the people and support their lives together, share in it.
I guess my opinion is a good portion full of crap since I'm seeing things from an outside perspective though and I accept that. It's just that the way I see it, regardless of having a wedding or not, day to day life is the same. The wedding itself doesn't change that. Obviously, there are lots of gay couples who have weddings and sadly, that doesn't change shit for their lives after the wedding. They still don't have the family rights that hetero couples take for granted. I see the wedding as a symbol and the meaning of that symbol can be different things. It can either be a symbol of the legal meaning of marriage and the bullshit that the governments choose to impose upon it or a symbol of two people's love and their wanting you to share in that love. Or more to the point, it can be a celebration of a legal contract or a celebration of love.
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