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Inviting your gay friends to your wedding is like getting into a country club that doesn't allow black people and inviting all your black friends to a party to celebrate.
Then again, NOT inviting your gay friends to your wedding is kinda douchey too.
Thoughts?
If you are/were in a heterosexual relationship and got legally married in an area where gay people were not allowed to get married, and invited gay people to your wedding/reception, did this cross your mind?
Sheila & I went to a wedding a few weekends ago for a friend of her family's. While I am happy for the newlyweds, each wedding we attend is a painful reminder for us as well. We are going on 8 years together (engaged for 7 of those), bought a house together, had a baby together, and still can't get married.
I really admire heterosexual couples who choose not to get married until everyone can, but to be honest, I don't know if I'd be able to do it myself... especially if there were children involved, just because of all the legal protections that marriage gives to the kids. Then again, straight couples can share legal custody of their children without being married. In most states (including mine), gay people can't even do that.
I can't start thinking about this now or I'll be up all night.
Then again, NOT inviting your gay friends to your wedding is kinda douchey too.
Thoughts?
If you are/were in a heterosexual relationship and got legally married in an area where gay people were not allowed to get married, and invited gay people to your wedding/reception, did this cross your mind?
Sheila & I went to a wedding a few weekends ago for a friend of her family's. While I am happy for the newlyweds, each wedding we attend is a painful reminder for us as well. We are going on 8 years together (engaged for 7 of those), bought a house together, had a baby together, and still can't get married.
I really admire heterosexual couples who choose not to get married until everyone can, but to be honest, I don't know if I'd be able to do it myself... especially if there were children involved, just because of all the legal protections that marriage gives to the kids. Then again, straight couples can share legal custody of their children without being married. In most states (including mine), gay people can't even do that.
I can't start thinking about this now or I'll be up all night.