Inviting your gay friends to your wedding is like getting into a country club that doesn't allow black people and inviting all your black friends to a party to celebrate
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Well, I can't speak as the hetero person able to marry because I'm not and can't. *lol*
It hasn't really bothered me, personally. I've gone to tons of weddings -- for a while it was several a year, oi. We're just in that period of life, late 20s/early 30s, when all my friends/cousins/partner's friends and relatives were getting married. I think I would've felt bad if they didn't invite me. Heh.
It's not that I don't want to get legally married. There are soooo many reasons I want to. When my mom was dying, I had to sneak my wife in as my "sister". I'm terrified of one of us ending up in the ICU ourselves and having to deal with that crap. Not to mention insurance, immigration, etc. etc.
But other people's weddings don't remind me of what I don't have any more than day-to-day life I guess. We had a very beautiful commitment ceremony that was as awesome as anyone's legal wedding ever was. The celebration and ceremony was not denied to me. It's the everyday worries I have that my married friends never need to consider that are the painful reminders for me.
I really don't expect to be able to legally marry in my lifetime. Gay marriage -- I think so and hope so. But poly marriage? Not gonna happen. :/
It hasn't really bothered me, personally. I've gone to tons of weddings -- for a while it was several a year, oi. We're just in that period of life, late 20s/early 30s, when all my friends/cousins/partner's friends and relatives were getting married. I think I would've felt bad if they didn't invite me. Heh.
It's not that I don't want to get legally married. There are soooo many reasons I want to. When my mom was dying, I had to sneak my wife in as my "sister". I'm terrified of one of us ending up in the ICU ourselves and having to deal with that crap. Not to mention insurance, immigration, etc. etc.
But other people's weddings don't remind me of what I don't have any more than day-to-day life I guess. We had a very beautiful commitment ceremony that was as awesome as anyone's legal wedding ever was. The celebration and ceremony was not denied to me. It's the everyday worries I have that my married friends never need to consider that are the painful reminders for me.
I really don't expect to be able to legally marry in my lifetime. Gay marriage -- I think so and hope so. But poly marriage? Not gonna happen. :/
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