Had to google if smith was DIIV guy to make sure. That tracks. What a horrible shitbag. Yet another older indie dude dating a younger girl whose prefrontal cortex isn't even fully developed
I mean, of course this happens outside of the "indie" douchebags, but it just seems like that scene is particularly predatory, whether it's alt comedians or musicians signed to 4AD or some shit or mainstream artists who pretend to have indie cred
Regarding her Michael Jackson comment, I have less of a problem with it than what other younger people and celebritieswho knew him have said about it
I know it is sensitive given what we now know about him
She's not being insensitive imo because she's seems to be prefacing her comment by acknowledging that his predatory behavior is a fact. I sometimes wonder if it takes being preyed upon in some way for some people to see reality in situations like this, with artists they idolized as children. Idk
i don't have an issue with the jackson comment either (and not bc i'm a sky fan). i actually highlighted that part bc it seems she acknowledges that he was a pedophile, without getting too into it. i'm sure being a young girl, he was appropriate with her, and she's never talked about spending time unsupervised with him either.
also, i had no idea smith was that much older than her so i'm really grossed out.
I was 27 when I tried out grad school and the idea or hooking up with an undergrad was anathema to me
I kept it to the 30+ people in my program or other programs
A few years ago I started dating someone who I thought was 31 according to a mutual friend, but we didnt meet on an app and I found out she was actually 29 and things fizzled out because I felt uncomfortable. I can't date anyone younger than 5 years than I am, even if that means they're in their early 30s. I mean, I could, theoretically, and I feel it could be ethical. But 31-33 would be pushing it for me. I feel like I can't go younger than 34 at this point in my life because I need a geriatric millennial or xennial who can get tue same generational references. I want to talk about how gak smelled and they immediately know what im talking about
I realized that a five-year difference (older AND younger) is too much for me through trial and error. I probably could have made it work with the one that was five years younger since we shared a lot of cultural references, but we were in much different places in our lives (30 vs. 25) which made it weird for me. I feel a bit immature for my age so it’s probably not a coincidence that my most relaxed relationships have been with men who are two years younger than me. (I haven’t been in a same-sex thing since I was a preteen so it may be a completely different situation if a date a woman.)
I mean, of course this happens outside of the "indie" douchebags, but it just seems like that scene is particularly predatory, whether it's alt comedians or musicians signed to 4AD or some shit or mainstream artists who pretend to have indie cred
Regarding her Michael Jackson comment, I have less of a problem with it than what other younger people and celebritieswho knew him have said about it
I know it is sensitive given what we now know about him
She's not being insensitive imo because she's seems to be prefacing her comment by acknowledging that his predatory behavior is a fact. I sometimes wonder if it takes being preyed upon in some way for some people to see reality in situations like this, with artists they idolized as children. Idk
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also, i had no idea smith was that much older than her so i'm really grossed out.
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I have a friend who went back to college and they're pushing 40...and their new partner is a classmate who looks pre-tty young. I am judging lol.
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I kept it to the 30+ people in my program or other programs
A few years ago I started dating someone who I thought was 31 according to a mutual friend, but we didnt meet on an app and I found out she was actually 29 and things fizzled out because I felt uncomfortable. I can't date anyone younger than 5 years than I am, even if that means they're in their early 30s. I mean, I could, theoretically, and I feel it could be ethical. But 31-33 would be pushing it for me. I feel like I can't go younger than 34 at this point in my life because I need a geriatric millennial or xennial who can get tue same generational references. I want to talk about how gak smelled and they immediately know what im talking about
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