Camren Bicondova opens up about being in a domestically abusive relationship

[jovialenemy]

#DomesticViolenceAwareness Month.

Talk to a friend. If the police can’t help you, maybe he or she can. pic.twitter.com/PVDUkzqNM8
- Camren Bicondova (@camrenbicondova) October 11, 2018
October is National Domestic Violence Awareness, recently the Gotham actress revealed via twitter that she was in a domestically abusive relationship. And that even

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[asth77]

maaaaannn I just got out of a disturbing conversation in which a girl I barely know (someone I want to be friend with) called me in the middle of the night to meet in a Macdo cause she had an argument with her boyfriend but she sure seemed scared, she did not want to tell me in detail what happened
and he came like, silently sat next to us surprised to see me but seemingly unable to speak/say what he wanted to say, checked her phone, looked at us for like ten minutes as if he was waiting for us to finish while she ignored him and made me talk about random stuff, the tension....

I am glad she answered my last messages an hour after I left, I told her she could come and sleep in my house any time

we're supposed to meet this week, she asked me if we could hang out

anyway, I think it's ok for now but I got a bad feeling about it, at the very least he sounds like the controlling type and I guess it's not good regardless if there is abuse or not

[ohwutevernvm]

damn this gave me intense anxiety. That ain’t right even if he’s that or this type, he’s that dude the type you gotta watch out. He could done shat even the minute he’s thinking about starting shit over whatever got him worked up. Hope she’s really okay.

[asth77]

yeah..... you are right.
and the fact he didn't say anything but I could see him doing his best to put a smile on his face and waiting for me to leave. Like, he knows what he wants to say/do cannot be done in front of me or in public. Anxious as fuck rn but I mean she answered, idk what to do, I guess it's alright for tonight she knows I live nearby and I am ready to come if necessary.
In case, I asked a Japanese friend to send me some emergency numbers for domestic abuse victims in Tokyo

I'll do my best to meet her this week after her work, she promised we would go eat somewhere in the next few days, I hope she follows through.

[yurasama_love]

That guy is dangerous

[asth77]

I see.... thank you so much for your warnings, it is awakening.

[meadowphoenix]

Do NOT call the police unless you are really quite sure that the victim wants the police called. somebody could be killed by calling the police without knowing their situation.

[asth77]

Yes, that is why I didn't
I think I might want to take things not too quickly, first I'll see what is gonna happen when we will hang out only the both of us
I have no idea what is happening exactly in her couple, except there is something wrong going on but idk what yet.
Clearly she called me yesterday cause she needed help, for me to be there/a witness and deescalate the situation.
It's so delicate cause I don't know her much.

[meadowphoenix]

I think you can offer what help you can (and please don't feel bad about having to possibly protect yourself. it's not your responsibility to put yourself in danger if it comes to that), but from what I've heard the best things anyone can do is a) validating that she is in control of her life and she gets to make all those choices and b) being a place where she doesn't have to think about her relationship (and it's not exactly healthy for anyone to be that kind of sounding board for very long). So if she mentions her relationship, a lot of asking her perspective and what she thinks her choices are and if she mentions her relationship to the point that it starts to be all your talk about, changing the subject to just you and her hanging.

I hope nothings wrong and you gain a good friend but this is all the stuff i've learned from classes about it, I've taken.

[asth77]

Thank you so much for these advices !!

[wapiko]

Hoooooly shit I’m glad she at least has you, if you guys are barely friends and she reached out I wonder what that says about her actual friends?

Anyway I hope she gets out <3

[asth77]

Yeah... I also think she called cause I live right nearby but you are right, I also thought about that and the fact she seems to be only with her boyfriends'friends and not her own most of the time I see her. It strikes me as kind of isolated now that I think about it.
I'll check on her though! Things will not stop at what I saw yesterday's night.

[wapiko]

Good, keep us(?) posted. At least you’re in a Tokyo but I do wonder if Japan really cares about domestic violence. I’ve been in Niigata since August and I’m not sure what would happen in my inaka town if it came up

[asth77]

I will !
My other Japanese friend sent me a list of women support center emergency numbers that you can find on the website of the Ministry of Health Labour and Welfare. It's in Japanese but there are like 180 centers all around Japan. I dont know how to paste the link from my phone but their official website is easy to find on Google.