Oh dear
I'm going to see my beloved step mom in MI, who is 98 and in failing health. When first apprised of my arrival next week she was very happy. Now, it seems, she is very unhappy. I know of at least two infections she is fighting. She cannot see or hear much at all. She is depressed. She has really extraordinary help (she lives yet at home), despite her exceeding sadness and bad temper. Am I immoral to state that I think she should be grateful for all her assistance, and feel lucky she's not in a facility? Maya Angelou said, "you can have aches and pains but you should not be a pain about it." Betty's energy and focus right now is all about staying alive, which in some ways makes me feel curious. I thought she was fearless about death, but I am wrong. Of course I wonder what my state of mind would be if I were in her position. I have no clue how to be a good daughter to a woman I love very much.