Nice Skin?

[ohka15]

Since Friday, I have been babysitting 2 of my younger siblings who still go to public school (2nd and 7th grade) while my parents have gone to Italy. I am the "reliable oldest son" so it is my responsibilty. I have been taking care of my dog Eevee among other animals. My dad's mom (we call her Granny) came late on Sunday, and she has helped out

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[yummyyumi]

Ooo I am so glad! That's one of the subtlest but best effects that I enjoy from HRT. Before it, I had lots of acne problems and had all kinds of skin problems, but estradiol and spiro helps a lot with your complexion. Is such a nice thing when you get complimented and hope those keep coming :) (and going too hee, gotta give back too y'know :P)

Don't take this the wrong way Ohka, but when you say "mistake me for (insert gender here)" you imply that your gender is not authentic or real and that you are deceiving others into thinking you are a specific gender. While you can be deceitful about your gender (think about all those years I tried to "pass" as a heterosexual male) I think is best to embrace your gender in a way that is an actual representation of the way you want to express yourself. Trans and cis people alike do this all the time but cis people never say that they were mistaken because there is this mainstream notion that trans identities are fake and less authentic than cis identities, which we know is wrong of course. I like "respected" or "perceived" better.

[ohka15]

I think that could be one reason why I typed that at the time.

[ohka15]

I hope HRT continues doing wonders. I really do.

I think at the time when I typed that reply is when I used the word "mistake me" is 2-folded.

1. I mainly mean in the sense while I am in my male mode (which basically has been my entire life) just to be preceived as a female. That has yet to ever happen.

2. One hurdle I constantly face is the image I see. Despite what I may feel on the inside, it does not reflect the image I see. I have difficulty even seeing myself as a woman when looking at myself physically which brings back up the doubts and fears I have inside that doubt the person who I feel to be. I mentioned to you one reason why I am nervous about wearing some women's clothing again. When away from mirrors and people, it is a different story of how I feel and preceive myself. It is sort of complicated, but I know I sm not the only one that struggles with these issues

[yummyyumi]

I understand what you are trying to say Ohka. Times are changing and even know cis men and women within the binary are also questioning and redefining what it means or what is it that makes us men or women. For us is a little more complicated because we have body issues but we also need to explore within ourselves to define ourselves. What I was trying to say is that there is no wrong or mistaken gender. But, within the transgender context, we usually say we are gendered correctly when we are addressed by other people as the gender we are presenting. This is actually a very controversial topic because there is the issue that some trans people "pass" better than others and also because we are placing the gendering aspect on third persons and not on the individual (as in you earn your gender from others' perceptions).
Being trans sometimes involves moving along from one end to the gender spectrum to the other. I subscribe to the view the point of view that being trans is about being yourself and freeing yourself from gender stereotypes. Just because another person doesn't see or treat you as a woman doesn't mean you are not one.

[ohka15]

You are getting quite deep :P

I read some interesting things the last few days in "She's Not There" that seem to define what I feel.