They weren't even called cell phones. They were "car phones", and needed an antenna on top of the car, and to be plugged into the dashboard lighter. (I can remember those! My mama had one in the minivan!)
You might also want to mention to your girl that there's a difference between a Dominant Male, and a Dom. My Owner, for instance, has absolutely no interest in scenes, submissives, or most typical BDSM things. And yet... He's a very dominant person. All he has to do is look at me a certain way and I just can't help myself (if I ever wanted to) from falling to my knees and kissing his feet. And a month after I finally convinced him that BDSM isn't abuse, and yes, he really WOULD like slapping my ass, he's comfortable enough with the power exchange that he'll do things like... Punishing me for saying I felt like a failure. (Apparently, NO ONE is allowed to say bad things about his property...)
(The sad part? In a month of experimenting, he's taken to this like a fish to water. In a month he has taken this further, and been more
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Well she isnt "my girl" perse we have a mutually beneficial relationship in many ways but its soely online. I've conveyed many things to her I can only hope she has taken each with a modicum of salt and applied her own knowledge base to it. She gets the distinction between Doms and Dominate males, at least I hope she does Ive certainly attempted to clarify it.
As far as your concerned I cant imagine being in a physical relationship without positive reenforcement on all level. encouragement is almost a requsite to being a Dom, IMHO. Nurturing a submissive outside of the physical application of the lifestyle is a crucial component to building their satisfaction. Anyone can slap an ass, hard. Anyone can bind someone but the true gift of domination, in my view is to inspire your submissive to excel and flourish.
Basically, there is no ying, without a yang. Also congrats on finding someone! im slightly jealous but hey, your back here replying to my journal so theres still hope :)
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You might also want to mention to your girl that there's a difference between a Dominant Male, and a Dom. My Owner, for instance, has absolutely no interest in scenes, submissives, or most typical BDSM things. And yet... He's a very dominant person. All he has to do is look at me a certain way and I just can't help myself (if I ever wanted to) from falling to my knees and kissing his feet. And a month after I finally convinced him that BDSM isn't abuse, and yes, he really WOULD like slapping my ass, he's comfortable enough with the power exchange that he'll do things like... Punishing me for saying I felt like a failure. (Apparently, NO ONE is allowed to say bad things about his property...)
(The sad part? In a month of experimenting, he's taken to this like a fish to water. In a month he has taken this further, and been more ( ... )
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As far as your concerned I cant imagine being in a physical relationship without positive reenforcement on all level. encouragement is almost a requsite to being a Dom, IMHO. Nurturing a submissive outside of the physical application of the lifestyle is a crucial component to building their satisfaction. Anyone can slap an ass, hard. Anyone can bind someone but the true gift of domination, in my view is to inspire your submissive to excel and flourish.
Basically, there is no ying, without a yang. Also congrats on finding someone! im slightly jealous but hey, your back here replying to my journal so theres still hope :)
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