MSN oh boy!
It was 20 yesterday and this weekend it snowed. Maybe an inch but enough to be a reminder that winter is here, blah....
So in my absence of LJ I have managed to befriend some intresting people on MSN. Ive just been surfing the web really and over time have given out my MSN enough to accumulate a group of people I enjoy chatting to (when they are on).
One of them is a freshmen in college, a real nice girl whom has an intrest in D/s relationships. Its evolved into a semi tutoring relationship where she is asking me questions about the lifestyle. Mind you I havent been full blown lifestyle for a long time, sure christine and I play but it was always understood it was a sexual fulfillment thing for me not a inherent need in her to serve.
So this girl is doing well, Im proud of here she has trouble with discipline and focus etc which seems to be a common theme for young people today. You know the ones who were raised on PC's and cell phones? (when I was 18 very few people had PC's in there house and cell phones were those huge bag phones).
So from time to time she asks about what a real day would be like in a D/s relationship. Im having a hard time conveying to her that in any 24/7 relationship no condition or circumstance is 24/7, I mean she wouldnt be lead around on a lesh while grocery shopping most of the time. However in the home really anything can go. Whats hard to convey to someone who is expirementing is the real variations of depth some people take the lifestyle.
I can claim to be a Dominant male but it dosent mean in a comparisson that I necessarily fit into the mold of what 7 out of 10 other Dominant males prefer. And that was and is the crux of the life lesson Im trying to teach her. Relationships, no matter the terms or definitions applied are always evolutionary processes that over time can chage in a manner that is fulfilling and or deteremental.
The key is to have a clear understanding of what is crucial for you as a person to have fulfilled, and what things your able to compramise.
So in my absence of LJ I have managed to befriend some intresting people on MSN. Ive just been surfing the web really and over time have given out my MSN enough to accumulate a group of people I enjoy chatting to (when they are on).
One of them is a freshmen in college, a real nice girl whom has an intrest in D/s relationships. Its evolved into a semi tutoring relationship where she is asking me questions about the lifestyle. Mind you I havent been full blown lifestyle for a long time, sure christine and I play but it was always understood it was a sexual fulfillment thing for me not a inherent need in her to serve.
So this girl is doing well, Im proud of here she has trouble with discipline and focus etc which seems to be a common theme for young people today. You know the ones who were raised on PC's and cell phones? (when I was 18 very few people had PC's in there house and cell phones were those huge bag phones).
So from time to time she asks about what a real day would be like in a D/s relationship. Im having a hard time conveying to her that in any 24/7 relationship no condition or circumstance is 24/7, I mean she wouldnt be lead around on a lesh while grocery shopping most of the time. However in the home really anything can go. Whats hard to convey to someone who is expirementing is the real variations of depth some people take the lifestyle.
I can claim to be a Dominant male but it dosent mean in a comparisson that I necessarily fit into the mold of what 7 out of 10 other Dominant males prefer. And that was and is the crux of the life lesson Im trying to teach her. Relationships, no matter the terms or definitions applied are always evolutionary processes that over time can chage in a manner that is fulfilling and or deteremental.
The key is to have a clear understanding of what is crucial for you as a person to have fulfilled, and what things your able to compramise.