To start.. most people cycle moods of some varying degrees.. a lot of people have fairly significant mood swings. Adding on that, teenagers generally have much, much more severe mood swings. It's just sort of a byproduct of the period and all the new hormones and such. If I recall correctly, it's difficult to diagnose people being bipolar before they're an adult for those reasons.. so it could just be entirely normal.
Anyway, people normally are self-absorbed and selfish. You don't really come off as any distinct person that's going to say it's all about them and beat it into someone to prove your point. It's human, really.. and I don't know if you're even as much as most people.
I'm sure some people.. well.. hopefully.. I don't think I've lied to you yet.. but, you'd just have to trust me on that one. =P
As for what to do to be social? That's hard. It comes naturally to a lot of people, it seems.. and to who it doesn't, they generally seem to stay status quo in that. But, in my experience.. do anything. Get out there, and just try to put yourself forward. Don't necessarily have a grocery list of things to work on.. I mean, they can help, yes, but the most important thing is to try and challenge yourself. You don't feel comfortable talking to the cute girl in class? Great! Go and do it, or at least attempt to and get a few words out through the stuttering. Pushing your boundaries and always trying to expand like that is probably the best single piece of advice I can offer you on that. If you ever get a whim that has some social aspect to it? Follow it. Even if it seems completely asinine, follow it. Maybe it won't always, or even often, lead to much long-term, but it should offer you practice and experience with people in varying situations. Say.. you see someone looking confused, or alone.. or really anything as long as they aren't occupied with other people for this particular exercise.. feel free to step in and try to start up a conversation. You might fail horribly a few times, but you'd be surprised how well it works. In my experience, most of the time when that happens, people are open enough if you initiate the conversation, and while you may have to be the driving force, they generally will respond and interact with you. I've certainly had a brillaintly fun time of talking with random people like that. Haven't exactly had a lot of it last long-term, but it's been a blast for what it was.
Seriously, though. The most important thing I'd say is just to try. Put effort in, and if you don't know exactly what to do.. do anything.
At least, that's what I'd say without regards to that spending time with yourself is equally important. Don't lose that introspective edge.. it can be extremely useful--however, it can also backfire and alienate you entirely from who you are.
Let me know if you want anything else.. I can at least try.
Anyway, people normally are self-absorbed and selfish. You don't really come off as any distinct person that's going to say it's all about them and beat it into someone to prove your point. It's human, really.. and I don't know if you're even as much as most people.
I'm sure some people.. well.. hopefully.. I don't think I've lied to you yet.. but, you'd just have to trust me on that one. =P
As for what to do to be social? That's hard. It comes naturally to a lot of people, it seems.. and to who it doesn't, they generally seem to stay status quo in that. But, in my experience.. do anything. Get out there, and just try to put yourself forward. Don't necessarily have a grocery list of things to work on.. I mean, they can help, yes, but the most important thing is to try and challenge yourself. You don't feel comfortable talking to the cute girl in class? Great! Go and do it, or at least attempt to and get a few words out through the stuttering. Pushing your boundaries and always trying to expand like that is probably the best single piece of advice I can offer you on that. If you ever get a whim that has some social aspect to it? Follow it. Even if it seems completely asinine, follow it. Maybe it won't always, or even often, lead to much long-term, but it should offer you practice and experience with people in varying situations. Say.. you see someone looking confused, or alone.. or really anything as long as they aren't occupied with other people for this particular exercise.. feel free to step in and try to start up a conversation. You might fail horribly a few times, but you'd be surprised how well it works. In my experience, most of the time when that happens, people are open enough if you initiate the conversation, and while you may have to be the driving force, they generally will respond and interact with you. I've certainly had a brillaintly fun time of talking with random people like that. Haven't exactly had a lot of it last long-term, but it's been a blast for what it was.
Seriously, though. The most important thing I'd say is just to try. Put effort in, and if you don't know exactly what to do.. do anything.
At least, that's what I'd say without regards to that spending time with yourself is equally important. Don't lose that introspective edge.. it can be extremely useful--however, it can also backfire and alienate you entirely from who you are.
Let me know if you want anything else.. I can at least try.
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