Surprise! I still exist! And I'm angsty!

[nuclearvenus]

Okay, so I was going to make this a life update, but for now I feel the need to bitch about something petty, and if anywhere is the place to do that, it's livejournal

Comments

[judecorp]

As someone who is guilty of referring to you guys as "Luka and Clara," I can only speak for myself but it's because I knew Luka first. Weird, right?

But I know how much it sucks to disappear into a relationship in terms of language and words. It was assumed all around that I would take Jen's last name... and I'm not even terribly femme.

Love you.

[nuclearvenus]

I've thought about that, the factor of who knows who first, which is totally legitimate, in those people's lives, I literally WAS added on to Luka schematically. First it was Luka, and then it was Luka and Clara. I get that.

But it freaking blows when MY FRIENDS put Luka first too. And I've thought about it a lot and I think that it really comes down to him presenting more masculinely and me presenting more femininely. I don't know how to fix that besides being a battleaxe about it.
Blearg.

Thanks for your validation. It feels good to have some solidarity around this. Love.

[judecorp]

No, I totally get what you are saying and it's amazing how things like that can happen. The way women, especially feminine-presenting women, get shafted is really, really crappy. I know that when I was visibly pregnant, I became this invisible little cutesy diminutive... and all of a sudden Jen was getting high fives and back slaps. Umm, what?

Maybe I shall refer to you guys as Lara and Cruka from now on. :) Or at least shift it up sometimes.

Also, LET'S GET TOGETHER.

[david_feuer]

I don't know you, but if you want an apprentice battle-axe-forger, I'd be glad to take the position.

[nuclearvenus]

Thanks! I can always use a badass apprentice :)