Comments | npd_family: NPD feels that they validate your life

tisha313 in npd_family

NPD feels that they validate your life

May 28, 2014 11:19

Nothing in my life is validated unless my mother witnesses me doing something or has proof. It can be as simple as me doing household chores. If she wasn't there watching me vacuum the carpet, mopping the floors and cleaning off the countertops then I have not done anything in her eyes, and I am likely to be a liar. She is like that with anything. ( Read more... )

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amielou31 May 28 2014, 16:39:01 UTC

My NPD sister-in-law does something similar but not exactly the same. She makes things up about people and declares them absolute truth regardless of how clear it is that they are not. Some of her gems ( ... )

sea_of_tethys May 28 2014, 20:59:11 UTC

OMG, the thing about the figure skaters is just BIZARRE.

My nan does it to some extent, she'll latch on to some random fact about you and decide it's utterly central to your personality. Like, if you mention in passing that you thought some band or author was okay, she'll decide you're their biggest fan ever and nothing will convince her otherwise. Or she'll do the opposite and decide something is no longer true based on nothing, for example I've had motion sickness my whole life but she's convinced I grew out of it 20 years ago.

gleefulfishy May 29 2014, 03:29:01 UTC

My husband does that with the cleaning. I come from a family that likes to clean and leave everything "perfect," as though it is that way magically. It blew my mind to see that his family cleans, and then leaves all the cleaning implements in the entryway of the house. Basically making anyone who wants to enter have to work their way through the jungle of brooms, mops, buckets and rags. Now I realize it is because my husband needs this "proof," otherwise "this place is always a mess, no one ever cleans ( ... )

discoveringtt January 22 2015, 18:49:07 UTC

I sympathize with you. My wife is like that. She goes to work and I work from home full-time. It was her usual pattern to come home and ask, "What have you done all day?" Many times she would add, "I saw you sitting there when I left, and you're still sitting there." For a while I would give her an accounting of my day. She would often say also, "I didn't seen you do that ( ... )