Oh no, sweetie, that's so terrible! Do you want to talk over the phone sometime soon? How are you doing on emotional support over there?
Have you tried communicating about these issues with him? I mean, you're planning on getting married... and it seems like it might not be the best idea to jump into it without resolving things, if you're this miserable. I mean, I understand that the prospect of starting over after you've invested so much emotionally is really depressing, and I'm not saying that you should end things, but it does seem like you should at least try to improve the situation so you're not so unhappy... and do it not in the context of an already-going fight, but try to sit down and talk about it at a time when you're both calm and not emotionally worked up or anything. I hate seeing you so unhappy.
Like I said, let me know if you want to talk. (do you have skype, by the way?)
hey. it sounds like you're pretty aware of the problems... so I guess now it's a matter of working on them :)
i'm usually home 9pm-midnight my time (which, I'm not sure how it relates to your time... i'm 3 hours ahead of London, 9 hours ahead of new york). Do you have my home phone#? also, if you download skype, you won't call for peanuts, you'll call for free :) (and we can just catch each other when we both happen to be online). let me know your preferred contact method, and we'll talk.
Agreed. You shouldn't feel obligated to devote a lifetime of this just because you invested a couple of years into it. I'm in a loving relationship where we both shared all of our past baggage with one another, and there was none of this "I didn't want to know." To me, true love involves mutual understanding and acceptance of your past and present partner's lives, and complete trust in each other. Being alone is better than this, I think.
It's hard to find "the one" since most men really ARE assholes, so I stopped caring about love and I planned this awesome bachelorette life with my best (girl) friends, who are all living it without me now! I truly believe that "the one" only really comes when you don't want him to.
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Have you tried communicating about these issues with him? I mean, you're planning on getting married... and it seems like it might not be the best idea to jump into it without resolving things, if you're this miserable. I mean, I understand that the prospect of starting over after you've invested so much emotionally is really depressing, and I'm not saying that you should end things, but it does seem like you should at least try to improve the situation so you're not so unhappy... and do it not in the context of an already-going fight, but try to sit down and talk about it at a time when you're both calm and not emotionally worked up or anything. I hate seeing you so unhappy.
Like I said, let me know if you want to talk. (do you have skype, by the way?)
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i'm usually home 9pm-midnight my time (which, I'm not sure how it relates to your time... i'm 3 hours ahead of London, 9 hours ahead of new york). Do you have my home phone#? also, if you download skype, you won't call for peanuts, you'll call for free :) (and we can just catch each other when we both happen to be online). let me know your preferred contact method, and we'll talk.
lots of hugs.
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It's hard to find "the one" since most men really ARE assholes, so I stopped caring about love and I planned this awesome bachelorette life with my best (girl) friends, who are all living it without me now! I truly believe that "the one" only really comes when you don't want him to.
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