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[nom_de_plume_86]

And back to work we go after a very nice weekend.  Seeing friends and making plans for weekends to come gives me the feeling that the rest of the summer isn't going to be such a colossal disappointment.  Next weekend I'm going to the Delaward Outlets to go shopping, and the weekend after (or the next) we're going to be going to Rehoboth either for

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[evil_admiral]

I don't know what to say that can be useful. I never had good luck with guys my age (hell my longest lasting relationship is the current one with my 37 year old bf). Older guys always seemed to be interested in me, whereas guys my age have an attitude of "And you are talking to me why?"

Of course you may have better luck. I've heard that Northern gay men aren't as elitest/snobby as the Southern boys.

[nom_de_plume_86]

Haha, I don't know who told you that but I've never heard anyone say anyone from the south was more elitist or snobbier than anyone from the north. Trust me, they're just as bad as the Southern boys I've met.
My issue is I usually find guys my age to be pretty two dimensional and shallow that can't see anything beyond the next party or club they're planning on going to. My issue with the older guys, like the 28 year old I mentioned, is that while I'm working and planning for a future, he's already bought a condo, has a car, and a life insurance policy and he was generally uninterested in being adventurous at all. He had his own little niche in the world, which he has worked hard to accomplish, but he didn't want to budge. He and I really are at completely different places in our lives.

[soulofchris]

I dated a 20 year old and he was fun, kind and completely immature.

I dated a 24 year old and he was together, responsible and a total fucking prick.

There doesn't seem to be a happy medium.

[evil_admiral]

You know what, that is so true in a lot of ways. Ken complains that he doesn't like working the long hours his new job requires, that he may never fully "get" what he's doing (even though I think that's BS since he is much smarter than I am), and that he won't ever stand out enough or develop the necessary leadership skills to advance to an executive level in his career (or that he has the people skills to do so). So I tell him, "Go back and get your Ph.D. in Economics or business or something, so you can go to the academic world where you belong!" (he has a MA in Econ already). Then he always responds, "Assuming I could finish it, I can't afford it! I have a mortgage, car payments, bills, and I need to build up my 401k

[nom_de_plume_86]

I'm very good friends with a Georgia Tech boy that I know from highschool, and he's in a 2 year plus relationship with a 30 year old man. For some guys I guess the age difference doesn't really mean much, like with the two of them, or with you and Ken.

[evil_admiral]

Well its not to say that there haven't been any speed bumps, but Ken has said before that he believes time is logarithmic. So there isn't that big of a difference between the two of us. My parents approve of him and everything. Though his parents have met me (hell I've repaired their computer several times), and they like me, but they don't know about "us". Heh, Ken's mom actually commented in private to him once, "He's pretty smart. But he's TOO YOUNG FOR YOU." Lol. But you just have to find someone who is right for you.

But there is a saying we economists have which you might want to keep in mind: irrational expectations. As sad as it may seem, you might be asking too much too soon for guys from our peer group to be capable of being involved in a significant emotional relationship, and to be smart and mature.

[nom_de_plume_86]

This is true.