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Wow who knew all it would take was a proposal and I would post three times in less than two weeks.... I just with everything was happy and joyous and crap. I know I wrote about this a few days ago but if I don't write I may start crying at work.
Wedding at Mount Chapel... Access denied. I got the word from the Diocese that they won't allow me to use the chapel even for a civil ceremony since John doesn't have an annulment. I'm more pissed at them than the Mount, but the Mount is still high on my shit list. They knew that it wouldn't be allowed but they didn't want to be the bad guy and tell me so.
It wasn't much of a shock but still in all I would have hoped that maybe just maybe it would have been likely. And it bothers me more than I think it should. The building shouldn't matter right, just the fact that this is someone you want to be with for the rest of your life. But it does matter in this situation. When you have the chance of something amazingly special that only a certain number of people get to have, and then everyone tells you no you can't have it because of one little hang up.
What gets me is how some people can break such a huge church doctrine, to the point where there's spawn to prove it, and all they have to do is say a couple hail marys and get a holy shower and all is right in their world... where as someone else can do everything right and get hosed over in a divorce and they are scum of the earth for the rest of their life? The double standard is disgusting.
I've actually comtemplated breaking everything off. Which is pretty sad. Sure, I would be heartbroken for a long time, but at some point I would rebound and move on. It might take a while, and be awfully painful in the process, but it would happen eventually. But it shouldn't have to come to that. In the end it's just a building for one day, everything that happens after that day is suppossed to be the most important part. It still sucks though.
So I guess at the end of the day the question is... What matters more... where or who?
Wedding at Mount Chapel... Access denied. I got the word from the Diocese that they won't allow me to use the chapel even for a civil ceremony since John doesn't have an annulment. I'm more pissed at them than the Mount, but the Mount is still high on my shit list. They knew that it wouldn't be allowed but they didn't want to be the bad guy and tell me so.
It wasn't much of a shock but still in all I would have hoped that maybe just maybe it would have been likely. And it bothers me more than I think it should. The building shouldn't matter right, just the fact that this is someone you want to be with for the rest of your life. But it does matter in this situation. When you have the chance of something amazingly special that only a certain number of people get to have, and then everyone tells you no you can't have it because of one little hang up.
What gets me is how some people can break such a huge church doctrine, to the point where there's spawn to prove it, and all they have to do is say a couple hail marys and get a holy shower and all is right in their world... where as someone else can do everything right and get hosed over in a divorce and they are scum of the earth for the rest of their life? The double standard is disgusting.
I've actually comtemplated breaking everything off. Which is pretty sad. Sure, I would be heartbroken for a long time, but at some point I would rebound and move on. It might take a while, and be awfully painful in the process, but it would happen eventually. But it shouldn't have to come to that. In the end it's just a building for one day, everything that happens after that day is suppossed to be the most important part. It still sucks though.
So I guess at the end of the day the question is... What matters more... where or who?