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Stupid Catholic Church and their silly rules about marriage. GRRRR Arg.
So yesterday was day one of the wedding planning tears. And those of you who know me know that I don't cry on a whim, it has to be something that upsets me an awful lot. We knew that John would have to try to get an annulment to get a full Catholic ceremony, I had no delusions about that. But after talking with our family priest yesterday I fell like there's not a snowball's chance in hell that it will happen.
What I don't get is people can be out of the church, break all sorts of church doctrine, or do things in the "wrong order" in the church's eyes and they have no problem letting them get married with the church blessing. But someone who got dicked over in their first marriage after doing everything they were suppossed to do gets hosed and can never marry again. It just doesn't make sense to me at all.
I really want to get married at the Mount. Not because of the whole Catholic church nonsense, that I could care less about actually in the long run. But because it is something special that only girls who went there can have. And yes, I'm that much of a dork. So I emailed for informaiton about availability next July and whether or not it has to be a Catholic ceremony. Hopefully they will still let us use the chapel for a civil ceremony but I highly doubt that.
So I have a couple options now... a civil ceremony, or picking a different religion to get married in and still using the Mount if they let. Going to the chapel at Rutgers which is non-denominational and having a civil ceremony there. Or just have the ceremony where I'm having the reception. None of which were my original idea but hey I guess i have to compromise I guess in all this.
Now it's time to talk to the parents about finances and pick a date.
OYE
So yesterday was day one of the wedding planning tears. And those of you who know me know that I don't cry on a whim, it has to be something that upsets me an awful lot. We knew that John would have to try to get an annulment to get a full Catholic ceremony, I had no delusions about that. But after talking with our family priest yesterday I fell like there's not a snowball's chance in hell that it will happen.
What I don't get is people can be out of the church, break all sorts of church doctrine, or do things in the "wrong order" in the church's eyes and they have no problem letting them get married with the church blessing. But someone who got dicked over in their first marriage after doing everything they were suppossed to do gets hosed and can never marry again. It just doesn't make sense to me at all.
I really want to get married at the Mount. Not because of the whole Catholic church nonsense, that I could care less about actually in the long run. But because it is something special that only girls who went there can have. And yes, I'm that much of a dork. So I emailed for informaiton about availability next July and whether or not it has to be a Catholic ceremony. Hopefully they will still let us use the chapel for a civil ceremony but I highly doubt that.
So I have a couple options now... a civil ceremony, or picking a different religion to get married in and still using the Mount if they let. Going to the chapel at Rutgers which is non-denominational and having a civil ceremony there. Or just have the ceremony where I'm having the reception. None of which were my original idea but hey I guess i have to compromise I guess in all this.
Now it's time to talk to the parents about finances and pick a date.
OYE