D/s and M/s and owned, oh my...
Neither Master nor I has ever been in a D/s relationship before. I have never found a man who could dominate me, despite my nearly begging for it from previous partners. And on his part, his cultural conditioning to respect women did not include domination. We've been on a journey together, with this dynamic developing naturally between us. We have each discovered that there is nothing about his being my Master that in anyway necessitates or even implies disrespect. He honors me, and holds me dearer than anything else in his life. And I honor, worship and adore him as the divine masculine, while also recognizing myself as the embodiment of the divine feminine, willingly submitting to her Lord, Love, and Master. I think it has come as a bit of a shock to both of us just how right and natural this is.
I call him Master most often, and Sir at other times. Rarely, I call him Mark, and never without a purpose in doing so. He understands when I say his name, that I am about to say something important. At other times, I call him my Beloved or sweetheart. But most often, the word that rises easily and naturally is Master, for that is who he is to me.
He calls me many things... My Love, My Lady, Sweetheart, Honey, Baby, My Treasure, My Future, My Life... he has so many beautiful names for me. I am blessed. And he also calls me slave.
When he first used that word, I gasped and went completely still. I was out of body, not moving, frozen in the moment. His careful hard work has inured me to it, making me hear it as the comfortable, affectionate name that it is between us. I am not entirely certain that it is le mot juste, but it works for us for the time being, and I have nothing that I think works better to describe what I am to him.
I have noticed a lot of names on my flist... things that others call the ones who are the capital letter in the duality of this world... Dom, Domme, Keeper, Lady, Master, Sir, Owner...
I wonder how you found your titles for each other, what they mean to you, how you settled on them, and above all... what is it that you call yourselves, my submissive sisters (and brother!!! everybody wave to fae_raven so he doesn't feel left out)
I would love to hear your stories.
xoxo,
roxanne