Kara's Dead Folks IssueswinegumsJuly 16 2012, 16:15:01 UTC
I've always found it interesting that Kara doesn't seem to allow herself to really express her feelings for someone unless they're dead/as good as dead/she thinks they're dead.
(see: Lee being assumed dead in the miniseries, Sam when Cylon Simon tells her he's dead in The Farm and in Scar, Sam again during Goo Tub time, Socrata, to a lesser extent Zak - whose death I think was what changed everything.)
And the miniseries reunion is kind of what sets it all off for pilots - once she's acknowledged, even in the smallest way, the fact that his death affects her, it's flat-out dangerous when he walks back into her life and is perfectly fine)
Re: Kara's Dead Folks Issuesword_vomityJuly 16 2012, 20:26:08 UTC
And the miniseries reunion is kind of what sets it all off for pilots - once she's acknowledged, even in the smallest way, the fact that his death affects her, it's flat-out dangerous when he walks back into her life and is perfectly fineAnd I think this is the crux of it, really. She possesses such a strong defensive mechanism that death is the only time that she can deal with her feelings and let them free. Because she so fears the repercussions of sincerity and openness. A lesson learned from both parents and from Zak. If you open yourself up, you will certainly get hurt
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Re: Kara's Dead Folks IssueswinegumsJuly 16 2012, 20:34:34 UTC
How do you un-recognize how important someone is to you? You can't.
Exactly. And Sam has many shades of Zak mk. II (easygoing dude who would do pretty much anything for her), it's impossible not to see the connection as stemming at least partly from what he symbolises - a fresh start, no baggage from her past - more than who he is.
Re: Kara's Dead Folks Issuesword_vomityJuly 16 2012, 20:43:23 UTC
Yup. Very true. I think it's well demonstrated that Kara is quite comfortable with a man who let's her decide how much she's willing to commit. It's one of the reasons her & Lee struggle, he wants it all, all the time. Sam & Zak are considerably less needy that way. Which is weird, because she was willing to marry both of them, which is supposedly the biggest commitment of all.
Re: Kara's Dead Folks IssueswinegumsJuly 16 2012, 20:50:48 UTC
I think it's the fact that with Sam and Zak (at least what we've extrapolated of Zak in canon), she is the one who calls the shots in those relationships, and they're ok with that.
With Lee, the combination of him not being willing to settle (he's pretty much the polar opposite of Sam and Zak, personality-wise, I'd guess he's certainly not Kara's usual type) plus her fear of her own feelings for him (too big, too scary, RUN!!!!) means that the power balance isn't quite so heavily weighted on her side there. And for someone who likes being spontaneous and unplanned, she's actually quite a fan of getting to dictate the terms on which her relationships are conducted.
(see: Lee being assumed dead in the miniseries, Sam when Cylon Simon tells her he's dead in The Farm and in Scar, Sam again during Goo Tub time, Socrata, to a lesser extent Zak - whose death I think was what changed everything.)
And the miniseries reunion is kind of what sets it all off for pilots - once she's acknowledged, even in the smallest way, the fact that his death affects her, it's flat-out dangerous when he walks back into her life and is perfectly fine)
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Exactly. And Sam has many shades of Zak mk. II (easygoing dude who would do pretty much anything for her), it's impossible not to see the connection as stemming at least partly from what he symbolises - a fresh start, no baggage from her past - more than who he is.
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With Lee, the combination of him not being willing to settle (he's pretty much the polar opposite of Sam and Zak, personality-wise, I'd guess he's certainly not Kara's usual type) plus her fear of her own feelings for him (too big, too scary, RUN!!!!) means that the power balance isn't quite so heavily weighted on her side there. And for someone who likes being spontaneous and unplanned, she's actually quite a fan of getting to dictate the terms on which her relationships are conducted.
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